So before I started my profile on the cage, I had a profile on Hinge.
Now my history with dating apps is spotty at best, with A face that could be (and has been) generously described as a cross between Nicholas Cage and Steve Buscemi. I generally don't make a fantastic first impression.
It only gets worse as I start talking, apparently dark humor is not the best ice breaker ... this pick axe though?
Anyway sometimes, I get lucky, a conversation lasts more than 3 messages goes on a couple of weeks and before you know it you're organizing a trip to get coffee somewhere. ... this is happening on Friday if anyone cares.
So hopefully it goes well, but I've been in the game long enough to know not to run before I can walk, I have to know if this person is actually just interested or is just looking for a free coffee.
And of course if it DOES go well, then eventually I'm going to have to bring up the topic of BDSM, not on the first date of course but in due time, to not do so would be a suppression of part of me and a lie to her, neither would bode well for a relationship of any length.
I'm kind of interested to know how members of this community would bring this to their partners attention, whether it was measured conversation or you baked a cake in the shape of a pair of handcuffs.
Certainly care and communication will be required in spades no matter what any of us do, but I've been thinking about it since she agreed to a coffee.
At least if nothing else it's an excuse to get a haircut right?
