Bear with me on this one,
While I've not had a huge amount of experience comparative to others in BDSM, my experience means that I know some key things about myself.
I am a Dom, I've tried Subbing for a few people but they either lacked imagination or passion for it so we both got bored easily, in fact halfway through once my partner asked at the time if we could switch ... which did add an interesting dynamic to that session.
But a question I ask myself often is can I be relied upon to be an effective Dom if I can't first master myself. key mistakes in my past have been me being too focused on what I enjoy and not enough on the subs experience, attempting shibari with rope that wasn't suitable (it was waaaay to short and it looked ridiculous) to just not having thought out scenes properly.
I chalk most of this up to learning experience, my partners were never in any danger, and I always respected given limits.
but recently I've also been considering myself physically, are Doms not supposed to be physically imposing? What does it say about me if my stamina doesn't outlast my partners?
Weird almost adolescent worries, but ones that I think should be considered by every Dom, if you cant manage to master yourself, can you truly master another?
Something to think on perhaps?
Moonlighter.
