We all know this is no fairy tale.
This is a safe place with people who give to others, what we want given back unto us.
A safe place to grow and learn.
Given the tools needed in order to become the best versions of ourselves that we can be.
We can have an ( I'm not changing for anyone outlook )
Or we can decide that we want to show by example.
That does not mean that we will not make mistakes.
It's looking beneath the surface.
Healing, trust, respect, and trying to overcome what once harmed us, to allowing another to deep dive into our depths.
Given the proper tools, rewards, and even "real punishments".
All this done properly with technic, to give one pleasure, pain, and a guiding hand that cares.
It's in showing and consistency, proper tecnic, tools given, respect, care, and love.
The difference in what once was abuse, is now concent given.
In showing one the difference, now allows for healing.
Takeing the fight out of another, In the proper way, allows one to be free of the past and clear headed.
With not only words but actions.
Seeing, feeling, hearing, and then shown the difference.
This allows for walls to crumble.
Turning a wild cat, into a purrrring kitten.
Reshaping our own views and relearning is difficult for anyone.
No one person can say that they came into this, or any relationship without putting in the work.
It's exciting, it opens the mind, and eyes.
But it's only a guiding light.
It's up to us to always strive to better ourselves.
Useing the tools provided.
A narrow mind, will only ever see, the surface.
This world may not be for everyone and that's okay.
We all have to take all we learn, to evolve and find what fits our needs, and the needs of others.
It's not all kink, or beatings, or sex.
When only ever seeing black and white. One never gets the chance to see the rainbows of color's under the surface.
A whole new world.
If all you take from this community is one thing.
I pray you see past an outsiders view and see the respect, trust, compassion, care ,work, a countinues growth, and learning.
All done properly, with technic, and care of another.
Like a (parent) showing by example. Guiding another out of hell and showing them wonderland.
When one gives all to you and meets all of your needs, wants, and desires.
You can then explore new things, push beyound bounderys of the norm.
You find a world that is never going to bore you.
This world (A fairytale).
Nooooo
It's work, and hard work at that.
But it also depends how deeply you dive down the rabbit hole.
Finding this world and the people in it.
To me is a fairytale come true.
Having one find me to be worth, the work and the effort, to "show me" everyday.
To not just use words that have no meaning.
He who shows me compassion and guidance. Having the knowledge and ability, to calm me, with only his voice, his tone.
He is now seeing, almost instant changes. However small those changes may be. It Is progress, making for huge steps in helping me to heal.
Like watching a flower bloom.
He has this mountin lion, who was Domming grown men. With little effort, he comes in and turns her into a purrrrring kitten. With not only words, its by showing, not giving up, and consistancy.
"Responsive", is not a strong enough word to describe what he brings forth with little effort.
Replacing the fight with compliance.
Giving to me instead a ravaging need, a greed so fierce, that i littereally roll over on my back and purr, waiting and needing more.
He finds and cares for the girl and woman she is and she in turn, gives unto him all she is, the fight is replaced by wonder and love.
All of her he owns, he guides.
She can only blossom and bloom.
Thank You
FlitterFly... :):):)
