Freedom within slavery... The journey to me.

SirWH​(dom male) - I believe communication is important you want punish but not destroy your slave

slaveDraconica​(other female){Not in svc} - Absolutely, ghosting for is a very hard limit. I feel is cause emotional damage to someone submiss

dollMaker​(dom male) - I think ghosting or withdrawing communication is abusive. Having been on the receiving end of being ghosted it hurt 😞

I think once a dynamic has ended, particularly if it was toxic or abusive then its acceptable to cease communications, even to block.

However if the dynamic ended as well as it could then I don’t think that is acceptable. If possible I think that the dominant should try to help the sub/bottom to transition from the previous relationship state to the new non relationship one. This isn’t always easy for both parties, but its a responsibility an ethical, kind, caring dominant should do that, after all kink relationships are more intense and deep than vanilla and the sudden ending can create all kinds of emotional issues, both for the sub and dom.

In an ideal world it would be lovely if both parties can remain friends after a relationship ends, though thats not always possible.

Getting back to shutting communications down as a punishment I would call a hard red on that, and say to any sub don’t ever accept this as a punishment as frankly its destructive and abusive. While negotiating such elements of a dynamic, if the dom brings it up you have a right to say no to that. As an aside I think its also an incredibly lazy punishment as well as being disproportionately damaging.

I myself don’t generally believe that punishments are effective, much better to encourage and try to teach, correct the issue than punish the sub. If you do use punishments they need to be proportional to the issue and have some corrective value, they need to be well thought out, and the sub needs to agree to them, know what they are before hand. So rule A break it this is the punishment, rule B break it and this is the punishment and so on. This needs to be fully agreed to, understood, and with informed enthusiastic consent.

Funishment is a different thing, and role playing naughty school girl, secretary, maid etc as a suitable set up, back drop to a scene is perfectly acceptable to my mind.

slaveDraconica​(other female){Not in svc} - Thank you very much for your thoughts. It means alot to this girl.