In most RPG some characters are proficient in different types of armor. The rogue is not going to tromping along in full plate and your Paladin is not going to be wearing cloth armor most likely. And If they do well they may not be performing up to snuff. And Well life is a lot like that. And kinky life is. I've tried to make my style the classic, dress clothes with the rolled sleeves and the vest. I mean hey I'm attracted to dudes like that and I know kitten is and it helps put her in the right headspace. Which is great... Except it doesn't put me in the headspace. Even in kink dress clothes make me feel uncomfortable and inauthentic.
Well, we had a scene Last night. It was planned, but Instead of dressing how I envisioned the part, I dressed in what made me comfortable and what I felt I looked good in. A pair of basketball shorts a workout tank and my favorite beanie to hold my long hair out of my face instead of a hair tie. Clothes I feel good in on the regular and feel like I look attractive and authentic in. It's not my "common clothes" as the PHB would call it. I only wear them when I'm doing something physical or just around the house. But their association with working out really boosts my confidence and helps me get in the mindset. And Kitten finds it hot and it puts her in the proper headspace. I realized I was wearing armor I wasn't proficient in. Sure The armor looks cool and it serves its purpose but I wasn't performing up to snuff. Now that I found the right armor I'm good to go. Sure It may not be unconventional. But It serves the purpose and helps me get into my headspace. Sure I'll never be the dashing rogue or the silver-tongued bard but hey every party needs a barbarian right?