PrinceMatcha(sub trans man)

Literally Just Love Meeeeeeeeeeee

My forums keep getting deleted I think, so I think I’ll stick with blogs for the time being. How is everyone doing? I’m a bit of a newbie to The Cage but I’m pretty sure the regulars here will see me posting every now and then. I hope to integrate myself into this community!

PTSD

2 years ago. September 11, 2022 at 5:02 AM

After having a PTSD trigger for the first time in a couple months, I just wanted to vent a little on my blog.

a lot of people in my dms always find themselves asking or pondering about my “no experience” remark on my profile. No experience means..no hand-holding. Never kissed. Never dated. It means /everything/. Being 22 I’m (semi?) ashamed that this is the case. A lot of people I work and go to school with have gf/bfs and children, even. Me? I don’t have a partner, never been touched, and, don’t have friends, frankly. My PTSD has robbed me of normal experiences growing up, so on top of being quite shy in social settings, I just..can’t help but completely avoid them all together.

although I’m still in the same place, I think BDSM and all it has to offer has introduced me to dynamics and people that are just that much more welcoming to virgins like me, and I’ve been peeking around the corner looking at what it has to bring. I hope I can experience all the things I’ve wanted to experience. Please bare with me.

B L O N D I E(sub female) - You have nothing to be ashamed of. I also have PTSD and I didn't get comfortable with all that intimacy stuff until much, much later. The important thing is for you to feel safe and comfortable with yourself first. Put everything else on the backburner until YOU are comfortable and enthusiastic to do more. You would be doing it for yourself, not for other people, so if you aren’t ready, there's no point.

2 years ago

PrinceMatcha(sub trans man) - Thank you very much <3. It’s hard functioning with such a thing. You’re so brave, thank you for your words of encouragement!

2 years ago

SirsBabyDoll(sub female){Pizza+☕} - I have PTSD as well. It's nothing to be ashamed of though I know that you probably are and your feelings are valid. You are also NOT alone. You will find that here in the BDSM community, PTSD is fairly common as well as a host of other diagnoses. In my opinion, the people who have gone through the shit tend to be more courageous than other people (vanillas) and so they aren't afraid to investigate BDSM. Then, when they get here, they find that communication is key and that is reassuring and comforting. It always for limits and that creates safe space. In that safe space, we are able to face ourselves and our trauma and heal. BDSM is very growth centric. It fosters healing.

2 years ago

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PrinceMatcha​(sub trans man)

Literally Just Love Meeeeeeeeeeee

PTSD

PrinceMatcha(sub trans man)