Wedding Ring or a Collar
I have give both In my time but what do we get out of them what’s true difference Between them
If we look at what goes with them yes there both Meaningful and come with love and Respect but how Different are there on what you get out of them
For me let’s look at the wedding ring first
What does just it stand for when I put that on a women’s finger it does not mean I own her or does it mean to tell her what to do
It means I see her as my Equal
She will support me as I support her but how does it look like been married in each other eyes i ask you ??
As I have a given a lot been married in my own mind heart and soul but what was lacking in it I ask my self
A Vanilla relationship was the Depth of knowing and understanding of what was missing as I did not need to know every thing what was going on inside my wife’s head each day and I would wait for her ti come ti me with her problems
I did I have the right to tell her what to do I could Advise on what we could do to make her life better but in the Vanilla relationship you dint have the same Responsibilities in looking after your Spouse i fell like the connection was different on the way I look after my wife it was more doing stuff stuff around the house lawns and helping out with the kids and not so much getting into her head trying to help make her grow as you would with a sub mind
I not say everyone like this with there wife’s but I felt like my Dom side could not shine
I felt always there was some missing a deep part of my was shut down
Do we as husbands have the same Connection as with a Vanilla wife as we have our subs i ask this question as it hit over time and time again inside my life that drove me to leaving her
What was missing that my wife could not give me what only a sub could as lots tell me there can’t go back to a Vanilla relationship but I ask why that is is just because of the kink Lifestyle or it it become a Dom looks and owns on what you do in your life
I always say to people we are like cake looks great on the out side with all the Thrills and colour of it could just bite into it but it going to have Flavour we all had a bad cake looks so yammy but taste like shit
It’s like the Substance of what we are looking for in a person but most jump in
On what on the out side to no fully getting my see the Substance of the cake
So let me ask you what do you see the difference between a wedding ring and a collar
Witch one ate you going to chose ??
Can you Define between both ??
For me it’s look at what I give when I give out a collar I not just going to own you I going to be all you need in side your head
I going to be reading your Journal to see what’s going on inside your head
I will be more in touch of the Emotional side of you your well-being but I will be in Charge
Of all of you to guild you to keep you safe
To make sure you doing what you told
To have have the full Understanding of what I do and how I take care of you
To me it like a full time job to make sure you getting what you need from my collar and how important it is ti me you not just wearing it is a Symbol of our Relationship for our love for each other it go past and other thing in our lives and I will die to Protect you
And I see the wedding ring more of Status
To say yes she taken and she will carry my last name but I ask how many Marriages fail
If you look at collar Relationships I sure there out way on who says togetter longer the Master who put so much more into his relationship or a Vanilla man who will more like to cheat not saying all men cheat
I just like to know why we don’t put more Effort into Promoting what the collar has to offer a relationship in the D/s
And how important it is to be that man for your sub/ slave
Where I here women talk about fake men like a bad cake or women not meeting the Standards of what is a true sub should be like
I see and her a lot of people on here and yes we all different and want different things that’s all good but when you say you are something you not that’s not so great
And when it come to a wedding ring and wedding we can spend millions
Do we spend millions on a the day you get Collard when I say most would take a collor over a wedding ring
But I could be wrong
I love some feed back on all of this love your foughts if you been married and now have a collar
Tell me what your thoughts ? are on it all