A scent of Woman

My way

The ways of how I want it to happen
With the sub at the door nude on her hands and knees waiting on me to Arrive

With her fully Obedience and love and Devotion to me as I would give her the same back not to shear her out with anyone else

With all the protocols in line of what makes our relationship so strong as a D/s

With the meaning of what

Trust
Connection
Bond
Foundations
Loyalty
Love

So where I am from
Is the old ways of teaching

So I about the mind soul and Spirit of BDSM
I looking at building connection with a subs mind and looking at the mind fuck

Releasing her from her self on let her be free from her own thoughts ?

To take the control of what’s she wants to let go of

Where the old School looks at this way of the Protocols of what a sub place is and where her mind is

It a deeper way of looking into her mind Building on connection and building Foundations

And working on what she is needing from
With in her self it go deeper than what most Doms offer today to subs

As I find there are many fake Doms on here with only the sexual side To be looked at or what she will only give out

When did me it comes down to what my job is to Protector ion every way to keep her safe

As I work on her to build her up even more on what Strength She already has

My job is

To mind fuck her
To build on her Strength
To work on her needs
To keep her safe
To help her beat her fears
To stop her from thinking
To take control of her
To love her
To Discipline her
To stand behind her to Support her in all she does
To keep her on tack of what she wants to be
I am there though every emotion she shell feel in her time of need to her happiness

She will know I have her back and my Devotion and Loyalty to her

When you have that connection she may take a collar around her neck ti be owned by you

To be in the M/s relationship

How Do You Define Your self

Who is the person In side you how deep do you know who you are

What Lengths do you go to find out about your own self how deep you look inside your self there say it only happens when Tragedy hits or you wake up to your own nightmare or you hit rock bottom

But I ask a sub to write her own thoughts ? down in a Journal to Discover who she is and what’s going on inside her own mind

Self Reflecting on what’s going on in your own life is so good so you can make the right Decisions it keeps the Demons at bay

We all talking about what good for the body and what food we should be putting and what not so much of we should put in

But who talks about food for the mind What should Doms be putting in your mind to keep you safe and well

What should there be doing to taking your well-being to a high Level

It funny ? on how many say there want a Master on there profile

But do there ready know what one is and how do you know one when you come across one ??

What’s the big difference between a Dom and a Master I ask you ??

I was Diagnosed with a Illness that will take me to hospital not knowing the out come till after the Operation

It could kill me for all I know but that not the story want to talk about here

But it make me think more about me and what have I got out of my own life and what do I want to leave behind for me to say I lived my life the way I wanted to and to give my insight to BDSM and what’s it taught me in many years as a Dom/Master and Daddy to some wonderful subs and how my life had changed with each Encounter

It’s about the who and what makes me a deep thinker and who we all are do we look close in who we are
So deep into our own life’s or of our own thoughts ?

What makes you different from the rest of us
What story you hold what makes You stand out from a crowd

What tells me you are a sub or Dom or what your Status says

As I bern blessed to talk to hundreds of people in
This world about million Different topics what Fascinate them
Ofcouse my favourite topic is BDSM and I will gladly sit down and talk about it to anyone who has a open mind

We talk a lot about minds
Power exchange
Letting go of the mind
Silence of the mind
Mind fucks
And Surrender of the mind
And how to get inside a mind

But the big picture is what about your mind what in it what pictures does it hold what stories does it say about you

To no you to to know your mind

I find so many have close minds to Certain topics or are we just ti scerd ti talk about them noting wrong in been Scared
It could be if anything

But with out facing the fear it will always beat you down

I say the mind is the fear of not been able to let go of what is going on side of my your head

And so many come to BDSM to beat the fear of what’s holding them back

So what is BDSM to you what holds you back why do you want a Dom

When you know your own self what is missing
The fear of what going on inside your own head

We have them and at one point in our own life’s we will face them

Why was BDSM look Upon as a way to heal our selfs our minds our souls and to better our selfs as humans I ask my self when most only look at it as kink or sex with kink thrown in

I was asked what do I want to leave behind for my kids
By people who are getting into BDSM lifestyle can make a difference out look in life if you know what the true BDSM looks like and follow it how it should be set out on what’s the true meaning of BDSM was Truly Designed for to work on the mind and soul and Spirit of somebody

Not as to have kink sex or to flash you body about the older I got the more I see inside my self or what my mind is for

BDSM has giving me the best out look on life as it shows me on

How to be a gentleman
It shows me on how to treat a lady
How to Communicate
How to read a woman’s mind
It help me understand my self as a person
The things I do and why I do them
How to stand on
To stand own two feet
To take knock backs
To overcome all Obstacles
But most of all to understand a sub
To know how to get inside her mind
The art of Seduction
You can find out so much more of what I know in my writings and in my group

The more Knowledge you take on board the more wise you become and the more help you can give to people

It’s crazy on what some people will think and try to make you think what BDSM is and if anyone thinks it

And the stories of the nightmares what some subs have to go through with fake Doms

Only makes you wonder where the hell is the training gone on both sides

Of the Fence

To touch a sub

How do you touch a sub

Let me tell you how I touch one

And you might be Surprised

First of all it’s not in a sexual way I don’t grab her or do I just want her pussy,tits,ass

On the First occasion

I want to build up of weeks of talk to know her to make sure we click in the mind

Think out side the bedroom think of her mind is the all you want and you want her to want yours as well

If you make a connection in the mind and the thoughts run wild of her just bern her not what you Desire sexual

Fight the lust you have and build the mind to want her heart and soul

The first time you touch her touch her in every place part from her sexual Organs

Build the passion for her touch with one finger along her Spine

Run you hands along her arms and legs and kiss her neck

Find a bit of paper the size of a Diameter
Of a cup get her to close her legs and put the price of paper at the bottom of her feet as she lays on the bed nude

Put a blindfold on her

You must move that paper with out using your hands with only your Breath to move it up to her neck and with out it falling off them swop around see who can do it better

To show control is to control the feeling of lust show her she means more to you then a fuck

Put a blindfold on her as you take you shirt off make her want but don’t give up the control of giving her

It can be a hard thing to do but if you want her make her wait and want

As the same as you do

The power is in each other’s minds and the longer you wait the better it will be

It like trust build it Prove it and show it in all you do

You Actions Speak louder than words

It like when you play she should know she is safe on what you do to her as you harden the grip

But she will know she will not need a safe world as she will know you won’t over step the mark

The same Applies to impact play you should know her pain Level

Every thing you do to her make it count and make her feel the love the trust the connection the deep bond you have for her

It goes with Territory of Been a Dom

She not a sub she’s YOUR sub

So make her feel it

Make your voice heard and make her want you as much as you want her

To be a Man

As I walk this earth to find out more on what it has to offer me

I look back on what I become I a Man a Gentleman A Dom

What makes me them giving Manners to all I come Across

And give Respect to all that Deserve it

Been strong in what I believe is right and standing up for the ones who can’t

The true Traits of a man is to look after your self not to be Scared to be different

Stand out from the rest and not just be a number

Fight for what you Believe in

Giving your heart out and not been Scared to show it

Be Humble and Respect those who Deserve it

Have Compassion

Listening is so important to those who can teach you but do not be easy led

Do what’s right in your heart not always in your head

Go with that gut feeling

Don’t lose hope when things are looking down

Appreciate things you have around you

Remember money not everything

Put your own happiness first and learn to love your self before you can love anyone else

Live to your best Ability you can

Do not lie cheat or be Dishonest

When you find love hold onto it and hold it close to your chest

Use your body to show love not lust

Kiss that one you love like it going to be the last time

Know who you are on the inside

Show all your sides but hold your Anger

That’s what is it be a Man

What is to be a Gentleman

Manners

Hold doors open pull chairs out and open car doors show you Respect

Always treat a women with the most Respect

Hold her close but let her have a voice

Pick up the tap for her

Offer to drive her home

Remember always say Thank you and remember say please

It’s not on what you say always it your Actions and there talk louder then words

Remember to dress up nice and take her somewhere special

That’s how To be a Gentleman

How to be a Dom

Take control in the bedroom show her your Strength

Show her how to be take control outside the bedroom

Remember it a gift she has given you to choose you to be her Dom

And if she submits its should mean everything to you don’t take it for Granted

Tell her how Beautiful she is inside and out

Surprise her with a gift from the heart

Make her kinks count on given her true happiness

But look into her life and find out who she is and what makes her tick

Give her your time you love your Attention
And Devotion

And if you put all 3 things together and do your best in all 3 you might Been seen doing ok in life

That’s who I am

And I live by those rules

The Morals of a Dom

I hear the same story over and over from women on here fake Doms full stop

Here are some of my Morals of being a Dom for me

One be open with a sub tell her who you are and what you stand for

Open your whole self to her so she won’t be shocked later on

Tell her to do her homework on you tell her to find out who you are and if you are real

One of all get time know her as a person not as a sub

Find out her Triggers and set backs what holding her back or fears

Open up to her be your true self and do not Lie

Build trust in her

Make that deep connection

The one that can’t be broken

Give her something to smile about

Show you care

Do not miss lead

Do not leave Unbroken promises

Found out her hard limits and do not step over them

Show her you soft side as much as your Dom side

Been Vulnerable counts a lot on both sides you must show her you can be Vulnerable to

Treat her with the most Respect you have

Do not push her if she not ready

You must be able to understand her on all her needs and wants

But first get to know her mind heart and soul

It’s not about her sexual side

Be prepared to do more then you ever done for any other women

Hold her thoughts study her mind

Find out what’s going on for her inside her self

Don’t be asshole

Treated with kindness and respect

Give her all your time you have

Txt her or ring her often ti show you thinking of her

Remember who she is ti you

Give her what she needs not just sexual

Remember been a Dom is not a game or it a thing you turn on when horny

It’s a life style it who I am and it what I am

Those are a few of my Morals of been a true Dom

AFTERCARE

BDSM Aftercare – Ways to Care for All play people In After Play

If you’re getting into any form of BDSM, you’ll need to learn proper aftercare. Here are the basics and a list of suggestions

WHAT IS AFTERCARE?

In short, it’s a fancy way of saying that everyone is okay and happy after playing around in BDSM.

It’s also gently bringing someone back to reality (from the fantasy of play) and helping them feel grounded again and/or re-establishing the normal, loving roles you would normally assume (if you’re in a relationship).

But, there’s a lot to aftercare that many new players might not realize – including special attention to physical and mental or emotional needs.

It’s also important when dealing with physical injuries or “drop”.

WHAT IS SUB/DOM DROP?

When you’re playing around in BDSM, there are often spikes of endorphins and adrenaline (especially if you’re doing something intense). When you crash from this natural high, there is a chance of “drop”. This can include…

Can’t calm down or feeling irritable
Feeling guilty, worthless, or helpless
Feeling tired or lazy
Feelings of hopelessness and/or pessimism
Persistent sad, anxious, or feelings of emptiness
Problems with appetite
Problems with sleep cycle (too much or not enough)
Thoughts of suicide, suicide attempts
Loss of interest in activities or hobbies once pleasurable, including sex
Difficulty concentrating, remembering details, and making decisions
Aches or pains, headaches, cramps, or digestive problems that do not go away even with treatment
These feelings can show up right after a scene or anywhere from 24 to 72 hours after (depending on the intensity of the scene and the Dom/sub’s personality, constitution level, or problems they might be going through at that moment.)

Basically, drop is different for each person and for each scene.

SIDE NOTE – One way to help avoid drop is to gradually go into and recede from a scene.

COMMUNICATION FIRST

If you are new play partners, you must discuss/share what aftercare is needed.
If you’ve played often with your partner, you might just need to quickly double check nothing has changed (or you’ve played often enough that you’re already familiar with the aftercare needed).
If you’re new to BDSM, it’s better to start slow and try things that aren’t as intense – you’ll also need to talk during your aftercare to share what works and what doesn’t.
THING TO DO IN AFTERCARE

bdsm after care ideas
Taking off all BDSM gear – like blindfold, ropes, or restraints
Moving the sub somewhere comfortable and warm (off the floor)
Cleaning, disinfecting, applying medicine, and dressing any injuries
Applying any lotions, aloe, cooling creams etc. to make the body feel better
Offering painkillers, vitamins, supplements or antacids to deal with pain, lactic acid build up, or loss of nutrients
Wrapping the sub in a blanket or bathrobe to counteract the body’s temperature drop (if you’re worried about your sub overheating, use a breathable fabric or something lose with holes, like a knitted or crocheted blanket).
Offer water (don’t force them to drink)
Offer chocolate (if the sub can have it) to take care of blood sugar levels
Juice or power drinks are a good alternative to chocolate
Hugging, cuddling, caressing
A soft and gentle voice from the Dom
Reassurance that everything is okay
Offering praise
Reassurance (if the sub feels awkward about their kinks) that they are normal and their pleasures are nothing to feel ashamed about
Offer a reassuring and gentle touch to a part of the body that wasn’t affected by the scene
Make sure participants are serene and positive
A phone call or meet up a day or two after an intense scene to talk about things and make sure everything is okay
Have a warm bubble bath with candles
Put the sub in their favorite comfortable clothing
Watch a movie the sub likes
Journal writing
Being left alone to reflect or even meditate
Remember, everyone is different. Some might need very little, while others might need a lot. It’s not for a Dom to judge what’s right or wrong – rather to take care of their sub.

DOMS CAN HAVE DROP TOO

Did you know that Doms sometimes need aftercare too?

Yep.

The stereotype is that Dom’s are strong creatures that don’t need help or reassurance – but this is an unhealthy mentality towards Tops. They are human too, and they can experience fatigue or have a rough day. The reason people don’t think about Dom aftercare is because they’re so busy taking care of the other person, they’re just starting to learn the craft, or it’s a professional arrangement that is solely focused on the sub.

What can you do?

If you’re practicing BDSM in a relationship, it’s a balance of making sure both parties are happy and calm. If you’re a professional Dom, you should make sure you have a system in place to take care of your own aftercare – this can be having a friend you can hang out with or call, a partner that can take on the responsibility.

EXTENDED CARE OPTIONS

Remember, a sub might need care for a few days after you’ve played. This can be in the form of a scheduled phone call, video chat, or in-person meet up.

However, there are times where that might not be possible, And that’s where a “babysitter” comes into play – this is someone trusted by both parties to step in for the Dom and offer aftercare based on the sub and Dom’s pre-negotiations.

Extended care is important to maintain good communication, deal with any negative feelings that might pop up, and avoid any toxic behaviors.

QUICK CLOSING

With all things BDSM, every person and every experience is unique. That’s why communication, positive attitudes, and consensual actions are VERY important. So is not judging or forcing your own BDSM beliefs on others.

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To the lost soul who wants to be a sub

I may be able to put something back into your life. Like with a feeling of lost or lonely heart, or the feeling of letting go of all things in your mind, to let your emotions rest and stop you thinking, letting me take over that confusion, it's what a Dom's job is.

To put back what is missing
To find out what she needs
To build trust
To build a connection
To build foundations
To give meaning
To give her goals to reach
To give structure

I think substance is missing from a lot of women’s life and it's something I love, a woman with passion. You have to have it in BDSM not just not for the kink, it's got to be shown in the mental side for me, it's got be shown in her strength of what she is willing to do to better her life with what I have to offer her.
Can she allow an intensity of empowerment & control to feed her mind, bare her soul and eventually her desires to peace and calmness. Comfortingly, the rules are defined, she merely obeys.

In the tasks I set out, I meet a lot of women all keen on giving and doing it for a while, then the bubble bursts and it's all over before it starts.

For me, I ask all women do they truely know what it is to be a sub and the psychological involvement needed to be one. Are you willing to do your homework, are you willing to sit down and dive so deep into your life and tell me the most dark secrets over time. Are you willing to work on every aspect of your life, not just the things you want to look at.

As I keep telling women, it comes down to 20% play, 80% psychological.
And I have to know you are dedicated to what we will talk about and what I will set down as tasks, and rules and protocols.

If you are not willing to put the work in, how can I help to change your life. I can’t really help you and it’s a shame, as I can see so much potential in you, as I've dedicated my life to being a Dom/Master.
And the benefits have paid off for me, on who I am and what I have to offer the right subs in my teachings.

It’s like who you friend with in the world, they have to mean something to you.
And it's like BDSM, it's my life, I don’t play it or use it as a game or jump into it when I'm horny.
It’s made me strong in so many ways in all I do, it helps who I am and where I am in my life.

You all come here for a purpose to learn something new about yourselves.
You need structure and to shown your strength and who you are
It’s not just about you dropping to your knees and handing over your all to a Dom
It’s about learning so much about us as people and a Dom may have some of the answers you crave for.
He can make a difference for you in your life.

You don't have to know it all but you have be willing to give it a try
You are worthy of your own self, you don’t need people telling you.

But it’s not a Dom's job to

Use her to make himself look good
Not encourage her self-confidence
To bring her down
Tell her what’s wrong with her
Make her feel weak
Show her up
Only play with her (unless that’s all you are here for, is kink )

And if these things happen they are Red Flags ? .,

We can work on your emotions, around what you feel is missing from your life.

I see a lot what is missing

Self acceptance in yourself
Self-confidence
Love
Connection
Passion
Structure
Understanding of yourself
Not letting go
Feeling trapped
Can’t stop thinking (turn the mind off )
Trust issues
Mental health

These are just some of the issues a good Dom will be looking at in your life and putting structures in place to help you over come or to help you deal with.

It’s so important you learn to open up to your Dom or finding someone you fully trust to give your connection to, as it's something that can’t be rushed into.

It’s a Dom's role to assess every bit of your life, from the moment you wake up to the moment to go to sleep and even the nightmares.

For me, it is so important for her well-being that I know all I can, to be there for her emotional state. To open my arms to her, to give her safety, make her feel loved and safe, make her feel like she can come to me at any point of time with her concerns, no matter how small or big they are.

Does she need to be weak sometimes - unshackled & vulnerable. Can she let me be the strong one, with nourishment and protection. ?
When her needs become a saturated, painful mess and she wants someone to just listen when she whispers or wants to cry out, can she let me be the balance of that need, help to suppress those feelings but still cherish and honour her mind ?

TASKS
What are these ? And why do I put them in my sub's life ?

For Stability, a big one for me, is Fitness.
It helps work on her self confidence, the little things like a power walk morning and night. It makes her feel like she is doing something for herself, so by putting that in, its showing I want her to love her body as much as I do.

I love to promote a good mind, body and soul and spirit
We need structure to show our strength.
It's so important to show her why you put tasks into her life and we must explain why they are good for her.

And to record in her journal for her emotional state. How she feels and what is going on inside her head each day, so she can bring this to her Dom and he can see for himself the support she needs.

And finally, she will long for my mastership, devotingly and respectfully, ready to serve and please attentively to my own needs and desires.

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A Submissives Needs

I need to feel safe
I need to know You accept me for all I am
I need to have clearly defined limits
I need You to be consistant
I need to expand my limits
I need You to teach me
I need goals
I need to be corrected
I need you to be my role-model
I need Your approval and reassurance
I need to be able to express myself
I need to learn from my mistakes
I nee forgiveness when I fail you
I need to feel I contribute
I need to enjoy successes
I need to share with you
I need to feel loved, respected and
protected in Your ownership

TO KNOW HER
Do you know your sub

Do you know how to get inside her head

So you know how to Tear down here walls

So do you walk in her Shadow

To know her is be her

To feel her is know her pain

To see her is to look Through her eyes

Those are ways to make her yours

As we all Want the strong connection

That deep Belief in each other

That deep bond that Connects you

The time to reach inside her to get to know her

Walk in her Footprints to know where and what she come from

Make her want to Release her mind to you

Make her see she’s not alone

Fine her inner Strength

Find her Weakness

Built on making the her trust you to let you so far in

To know her is to understand everything about her

Make her want you

Make her yours

Give her Notting to Doubt you

You must show her love Respect Loyalty
And your whole Commitment to her

If she is going to give you her self she must want your true self to be hers

You must work on the soul, Spirit mind to know her

Do not leave a stone unturned in her mind

It’s take a lot ti break someone

But it take a lot more to Know someone

Your job as True Dom is to Figure her out

Tear to walls down and do what it takes to
Release her

Find what she needs

It’s time to Silence in mind

And stop her from thinking

As I said to know her is to be her and get inside her mind

Feel her be her know her

What she is and who she is

Where she’s been

What is she missing

Find These answers

And you may call your self a Dom

And then she may make you her Master
 

I WANT YOU

I want your heart because,
selflessness breeds love.
I want your mind because,
conversation breeds connection.
I want your soul because,
energy breeds an intangible bond.
I wants you because,
nothing can replace the impact
of your presence
I want to feel you inside and out.