HOW HAS BDSM CHANGED
Has BDSM changed over the years?
I’ve been a Dom Since I was 18. Back then, it was more underground and not so sex-based. BDSM was focused more on the mind than just purely on sex.
I’ve been told it’s different how men of different ages approach women on here. Older men are more respectful and mature in the way they speak to women. As for the younger men, their approach seems to focus more on the sexual side of BDSM.
I remember being so young, but still wanting to know all the ins and outs of BDSM. I wanted to know what it stood for and how to get the best out of a woman. Is that something we still do today?
Do you know what BDSM is all about and how to get a woman to submit? How to show her respect or give her what she wants? Do we honor, obey, and respect her needs and kinks so we don’t push her too far?
Is it only sex we see now and not the true meaning of BDSM?
For me, the one true rule of being a Dom: You are not the one who is in charge. Yes, you can take control, but she has the power and right to say no.
As a young Dom, I got a tough lesson on the meaning of what it is to be a Dom. You must build a trusting bond and deep understanding. Know her inside and out. Pick her brain before you undress her. Show her you are loyal and will stand as her equal. Have her back. Do this and she will choose to submit to you.
Then, and only then, can you say you own her. Let her come to you. Let her show you what true submission is, and she will love you.