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Newbie Corner: Beginning Your Journey

Finding your place in the BDSM community is tough enough but beginning your journey on the path to self-discovery can be even more daunting. This blog is dedicated to those who are just starting out and to those who need to pause and refresh the knowledge they need to recharge.

You'll find tips and other valuable information on taking your first steps and furthering your growth in the BDSM community.

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2 years ago. April 11, 2022 at 9:28 AM

R. A. C. K. - Risk Aware Consensual Kink. Following the RACK philosophy means being aware of the risks you take when engaging in BDSM and Kink play. It also means that both parties consent to the Kink that they are engaging in.

S. S. C. - Safe, Sane, Consensual. Similar to the R. A. C. K. Philosophy, following the SSC credo means that you are playing safe with someone in the right headspace and not under the influence of things like alcohol, drugs or other mind-altering or motor function affecting substances during consensual play.

P.R.I.C.K. - Personal Responsibility in Consensual Kink. This means that you are aware of your personal responsibility when engaging in kink play or relationship dynamics.

SafeWord - A safe word is a specific, easily remembered word that can be used to pause or stop a scene in progress. Typically, the word Red is used to stop play immediately and the word Yellow is used to pause or slow play. A safeword should always be something that is easily recalled during play, especially when you attain Top or subspace. During play where vocal ability is taken away, you can also substitute just about anything that will generate a noise loud enough (like keys, a ball or an aluminum can) to get a Top's attention, signaling that play needs to be paused or stopped.

Safe Call - Safe calls are set up with a trusted friend, family member, or spouse at different intervals during any time spent with someone that you do not know and haven't built trust. Safe calls can designate that you are safe and that you desire to continue on with your date or play session but they can also alert someone to a dangerous situation that you find yourself in. Safe calls can contain certain keywords or phrases which signal that help is needed.

Limits - A hard limit is something you will not do under any circumstances. A soft limit is something that you may not be open to at this time but may be open to trying in the future with someone you trust. A limit can also restrict with whom you try something as in something you will only do with a specific Dom/me, or in a specific play situation.

Protocols - A protocol is a specialized set of behaviors or rules that govern a certain situation or occasion. There is high protocol, moderate protocol, low protocol, and even specialized protocol. Protocols can be personal, within a relationship dynamic, created by a group, event or party host or venue. (i.e. No touching could be a personal protocol, a general venue protocol could be the use of the word "red" as a standard safe word set by a venue or event planner.)

Deep Sub - Very well written 💜
2 years ago

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