When I discovered BDSM I was very fascinated by it. I wasn’t sure if I would be a dom, sub, or even a switch due to my personality. That can change of course.
I took an interest in the dom role, but there were some things that I didn’t like which were the pain, humiliating, and degrading factors. Being a gay male, those factors tend to be very common from what I see. That doesn’t reflect who I am as an individual, and I don’t want to put on a persona of any sort. I want to take a gentle approach while still being in control and guiding the other person and myself to be our best selves possible. Encouraging, understanding, growth, empathy, and trust from both sides. I don’t have much experience as it can be difficult to find potential people. But I hope to learn and develop into the soft dom that I want to be.
