As subs, we all give our 100% submission in a relationship when we choose to submit to a Dominant. But what is our 100%? This of course varies from person to person. For me, as a slave, my 100% would be basically anything not including my work life and my family. While I'm with E now as he trains me, in a future relationship, my 100% would exclude those things.
For some slaves, their 100% might include all aspects of their life, if they choose that. For a submissive who prefers to submit only in the bedroom, or in the bedroom plus a few other areas, that is THEIR 100%. I'm not hitting all the types here but you can see where I'm going.
Real life dictates that 100% can only be what we HAVE to give and what we are WILLING to give. Many of us have jobs, kids, elderly parents, family stuff, and a plethora of other shit that gets in the way. But our 100% is still valid. We're still giving all that we can give.
What about a brat? A brat also submits 100%, I completely believe this. Being a brat is a part of them, it's NOT partial submission or some such nonsense. Brats may take longer than some to submit to a dominant, because many of them have past trauma and serious trust issues. But when they do submit, they give their all. They are intensely loyal and loving, and they deserve to have love just as much as anyone else.
Brat taming isn't necessary - they're not fighting submission, they are showing their trust in a Dom by showing you who they are on the inside, and they're trusting you to understand what's behind the brat behavior. A Dom that understands a brat won't try to push that down, but will continue to be kind, consistent, and trustworthy in his interactions. He will value the deep level of trust that allows her to show her true self.
We all have our differences, Dom and sub alike. We all, including brats, deserve to be loved, and deserve someone who will show us that love unconditionally.
Thanks to SirsBabyDoll for reminding me, and for writing her awesome series "Art of the Brat." I'm still reading them, but I've learned a lot so far.
