Recently I have had to grapple with something new in my Dominant life.... subs with major medical issues.
I'm not sure I handled them as well as I might have. I tended to be slow in realizing how much such events instantly can shut down any submissive feelings. I compounded that by trying to keep some whiffs of 'Domlyness' in the dialogue, when in retrospect that was unthinking.
I realize now that just dropping any thoughts of kink, instead going full-bore with vanilla human sympathy and support is clearly the best path for me when confronted with events of medical necessity..They are, can be, all consuming.
We're moving on from those brinks. I haven't been criticized, but probably I should have been. Still, grappling with medical issues with in a D/s relationship made me realize that medical issues need to be squarely faced with a caring heart while everything else goes on a back burner. Should there be a next time (here's hoping not!) I hope I remember sooner what I've realized, and send the flowers and supporting thoughts right away, and keep them coming without thought of the D/s relationship....
I wouldn't wish medical issues on anyone...They are out there, though.