Recently I've had to come to grips with some sub family or physical issues which have crimped our activities.
First reaction is to throw up my hands and try to bully through--you know "What do you mean, you can't serve me now?" kind of reaction.
Then reality steps in (thankfully) and that need to wrap the sub carefully in my arms and provide as much nurturing support as possible kicks in.
It can be powerfully soothing to seek to be a positive enabler of the most basics of life--reducing pain, patience with the hard spots, giving support without judgment. Accepting that life sometimes gets in the way and helping her deal with it can add new dimension, and strength, to our relationships. So, perhaps, a silver lining to balance a little of the hardship...just being here for you.
