As I wait for various tools and materials to arrive, I thought I would spend a moment to discuss my basic philosophy on the D/s lifestyle.
For me, what it all boils down to is the idea that s types need to submit to someone. They have a need to give power of themselves to someone else (for discussion purposes, I am boiling things down to a one on one relationship). Be it mental, emotional or simply physical reasons, they find the need to turn over control to another to make themselves feel complete.
For this to happen, there has to be somone on the other side of the collar. Thus enters the Dominant (yes there are other terms, but see discussion purposes above). For most, this seems rather obvious, but sometimes the obvious is rather ignored. After all, what good is a Dom without somone to submit to them? Is it just a person with an ego screaming orders at a wall?
My personal philosophy is to be a real Dom, one must inspire submission, not take it.
Any fool can force, or attempt to, submission from another. However, only a few can inspire s types to really give of themselves to another. By building trust, though actions or discussion or being an example, can real submission be created.
How that trust is built is another dissuasion.
Thus Endith the Lesson
