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Sun’s Disposition on This & Future Days

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1 year ago. June 19, 2023 at 10:28 PM

So I’m laying on my bed late at night thinking, as I normally tend to do when I forget to take my meds, of the type of submissive I am, and what I would like to grow towards. What kind of dom would be my goldilocks that fits me “just right” in order for me to achieve this?

Looking up various types to give myself a refresher, I do a little self analysis. I can’t have full-time TPE nor can I do a full on 24/7  submissiveness simply because I still have my own responsibilities to contend with like working, trying to build a business, and being supportive of my daughter, who is going into college.

Is there even a name for a type of submissive that matches the following as well as above? So as soon as you come into the home, go out with your dom, and submissive to the requests that your dom makes except within the negotiated areas?

 

I like the idea of having a nurturing and encouraging daddy dom (I would be a middle to possibly on the young side of teen, basically between 10 and 15-ish), because I tend to  act very youthful. I like self-improvement, and rules and structure that come with to balance it. Even with all the crazy that’s happened in my life, I still have a lot that I’m very innocent and naïve about especially sexually. I’ve even read in several places that age play, to an extent, can be therapeutic. Throw in a little sensualist dom because it’s nice to have all of your senses played with. A dash of classic dom, and finish with a little primal dom. Take what is yours! Waaalaaaa

 

Lol I don’t think I’ll ever get the “just right” but I’m hoping to get at least close. Am I getting my hopes up too high?

 

Further, is it true that when you are a submissive that a major part is about you giving pleasure anytime he wants it, but you are not really on the receiving end? I have read this a few times that it is often done, and it concerned me a little.

 

Oh yes, I definitely wouldn’t mind doing things to please my dom, but I don’t want to become celibate in the meantime. For me, it is not a well rounded dynamic with only one sided sexual pleasure.

 

Also, I just wanna put it out there that I am clawing my way back to get right side up again. I’m a strong girl, so I know I’ll eventually get there.

sexycurves​(sub female) - Being submissive, for me, is a natural part of me. I like to give my time to other people, do things that make life easier for them without any expectations. However in a dynamic/relationship I have specific needs such as alone time, amongst other things. When it comes to sex, I will certainly discuss what I need to feel loved and appreciated.

Just because you're submissive, it doesn't mean that your needs and wants are to be pushed to one side. If anyone expects that of you, I'd advise you to tell them to get lost.
1 year ago
sexycurves​(sub female) - Just so you know, I have no experience of being in a dynamic where I do whatever he wants whenever, and I never will. That's not going to work with me.
1 year ago
little one sun - Thank you for your insight, even recently, and before, a lot of perspectives, wanted full submission. Especially the types of ways to please them and ways they wanted to take it from me. When I mention my baby size business and that I occasionally work at a daytime job kind of thing, there was a problem with them because they would not have me there to do what they wanted me to do. Usually it was sex or bj’s whenever they felt like it. That was a good portion of the gentlemen that I’ve talked to.
1 year ago
sexycurves​(sub female) - For new subs who come here, they tend to get these kind of messages and some get caught up in it because of their naivety within the kink community. You definitely aren't the first one, and sadly won't be the last one to get these kind of messages and 'guidance'.
1 year ago
ButterfliesAndCuffs​(sub female) - You can absolutely have a 24/7 dynamic but still have boundaries as far as work and family. I know because I’m in one. 😉 Just as in a vanilla relationship, you wouldn’t do certain things with your partner in front of your boss or your kids, you just keep the D/s stuff under wraps in certain company.
As far as pleasure goes, a good Dom should want to give his sub pleasure too. There might be times when the pleasure is all about him. Some submissives, like myself, derive pleasure from that. But this is all something that can be worked out in negotiations. If you find a Dom that’s a pleasure Dom or a pleasure sadist, you won’t be left without orgasms for too long. 😈 😆
1 year ago

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