I am not a complicated person. at least I would like to believe that. Yet somehow, despite what my profile says others still seek to pull me into a dynamic. Could it be that some cannot comprehend beyond the sexual point of a dynamic, and just want a chance to slide into another's pants to fulfill their own selfish needs and desires? Hmm, am I being a bit to crass? Perhaps, but one could understand my frustrations at having my wants completely ignored.
I will not be cowed into changing my inbox to members only. No , but I might warn those around me that you will quickly find yourselves blocked should you seek to continue messaging me with offers of submission, relationships, and sexual innuendos. At the very top of my profile in parentheses it clearly states I AM NOT INTERESTED IN A RELATIONSHIP AT THIS TIME. Therefore, the conclusion can be drawn that approaching me with letters of (do you seek submission, you should serve me, worship me, I can make all your fantasies come true) would be highly disadvantageous for you.
If one were to seek out my attention, the smart thing to do would be to approach me with an intellectual conversation to garner my attention. I may not be interested in a relationship at this time, but that does not mean it may not change in the future. Garnering my favor with conversations that do NOT involve sex would be a start. Working your way up the ladder in my regards would be the next step. I may be submissive, but I also have Domme tendencies, and my affections are not easily obtained. One would also take into consideration, distance, time, effort, and money. I say money because I do not waste any of my money, it is carefully laid out and planned so that it is spent wisely and not foolishly. Being a boss means time management, communications skills, as well as smart planning financially. I may be a woman full of love and laughter, but I am also an intelligent woman who knows exactly what she wants out of life.
I cannot abide a man who approaches me with the telling me how I will be a good submissive, or how they will treat me in the bedroom. For me submission is an act of love, and to love you first have to know a person. To know that person you have to gain their attention. Much like in the old days, a man would approach a woman with words of wisdom and charm, and not of sexual innuendos and lust. My my how the mighty hath fallen in this day and age, that a person can not simply use their intelligence to gain a man or woman's attention instead of their inability to control their lust.
Oh, I am quite aware of how some will take this post. Quite aware of the ire it might incur. Yes, I do realize this is a bdsm website, but it could also be said this is also a place for people to connect and interact about the world surrounding them, not just to hookup or date. A combination of the two , well balanced is what the creators were really trying to accomplish I am sure. Class and intelligence is not a high request. It is a reasonable one that shows respect to those with whom you are speaking too. -heavy sigh-
