I've been tossing something around in my brain lately regarding difficult relationships, that for a time, folks could be stuck in.
Here's the idea:
1. Forget what you know of each other and your pasts. The past is gone and done.
2. Think of who they are today, as though you are meeting them for the first time.
3. Forget what you want or need for this day only.
4. For this day focus only on how you can make for them, the best day they've ever had or lived.
It's a tough challenge. None of these steps are to be ignored. You must do them all, and probably repeat them throughout the day as a reminder to yourself.
If you faulter, get back in the game right away, starting where you left off. There'll be quite a learning curve I'm sure.
This challenge is not limited to whatever role you choose to play in the relationship.
At the end of the day, think about what happened, but do not judge yourself. Just give it your best shot, because none of us knows the right way to do this.
On the morrow, rinse and repeat these steps if you so choose.
Share what you did or discovered if you can, or want to. You never know what you can do until you get in the game and do it.
BTW, before you say anything about this idea, try it for a day. No excuses!!!!
Get started if you have the courage.
