Dirty Pretty Things

TigerBDSM​(dom male){looking} - The realities are this.
For most people who are in the lifestyle, if you connect you connect.
Yes, everyone has specific ideas of what they want (deserved or not). However if a connection happens, then the core has been established and everything else is secondary.
Sure, if someone matches your interests in the lifestyle, that's a plus. But you need to like the person more importantly, the core connection.
As said, if a true connection occurs, then everything else good or bad is secondary.
Additional men will like virtually all women. All you have to do is show interest. LOL

Lit By Kit​(sub female) - The best advice I'll ever be able to give anyone, including you, will be this:

Slow down. The Cage, an ultimately the BDSM world as a whole, is a vast Wonderland where you can experience a lot of things and none will be quite the same as the other even if someone calls it the same thing.

A paddling from a Daddy Dom will be different than one from a sadist. Hell, lines will be different from a Daddy Dom to a Sadist to a Brat Tamer.

I know the desire to rush into a dynamic. I know the desire to BE IN a dynamic. And your thoughts are right. There's nothing else quite like it. It's exhilarating to be able to touch the fantasies your mind is creating for you.

That's all part of wonderland, I promise.

But if you don't slow down. If you rush and jump too soon - then you turn Wonderland into a War in your own mind and you find yourself unable to enjoy the wonders within Wonderland.

Literate Lycan​(dom male) - Completely agree with Lit By Kit above - take your time. Take time to read and absorb all the different flavors that may be out there. Basically learn to swim before you dive into the ocean, because the sharks will be circling.

Learn who you're talking to. Read profiles (if they don't have one . . . hmmm), read their blogs and forum posts, and become friends with the community. There are many trustworthy individuals here, and many nefarious types hiding in the shadows looking for a quick bite.

You will probably find that you connect with many individuals but not all of them are your connection. You may have one thing in common and it's exciting and new, until you realize you have very little else in common.

Another great example from Lit by Kit, you may enjoy a nice spanking from a Dominant as well as a spanking by a sadist, but the after effects will be totally different. Both might be extremely thrilling while in the act, but ultimately what do you desire. Learn that before swimming too far out into the ocean.

Enjoy!

fluffypoppet​(sub female){Protected} - 🦈🦈🦈
Swimming with sharks… I’ve thought of it that way. There are times when I am very aware there are sharks in the water.

Look for the red flags.
Ask lots of questions.
Know yourself and your needs.

This is a great place to ask questions. Many people here have significant experience and/or knowledge. Make friends… but don’t be chum.

Reach out if you need help. 🤗🤗🤗

Sweet Minx​(sub female){NotLooking} - Thank you all ♡