The Culture that has been here all the time

A man desires a woman, or a woman desires a man. Does it matter? I say NO!

Within us is the desire for the other, and it can not be beaten out, ruled out, forbidden, or hidden. In this community, I extend my desire description to include and appreciate the individual makeup we each have—multiple, monogamous, vanilla, gay, bi, or full-blown experience with BDSM. 

Love is real. Love is an action word. Love manifests itself in a kaleidoscope of emotions and variations. I will admit that in my approximately 70 years of sexual experimentation, disappointment, and joy, I am still learning and willing to engage in the physical erotic love and keep my romantic love at the same time.

I will be mild and say, as far as I can tell, most religions hide reality and practice hypocrisy. When revealed, people feel shocked, ashamed, and dismayed (at least they fake the response).

I am sad for people who deny themself the pleasures and joys of love, erotic and romantic, and any such combination, from the chicken coop, where I asked questions of myself at five years old, to the annual church bazaar, where I noticed all the girls flocking around the younger, new priest, hanging out. It doesn't require a genius to read the writing on the wall of life.

Preserved vegetables and condiments are ok when done with vinegar, BUT NOT EVEN CLOSE TO NUTRITIOUS (think probiotics to the max) AS WHEN FERMENTED, like real pickles and sourkraut. pixabay images.

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It was the summer of 2005, and I lay in an emergency room near death. My heart failed without warning, reason, or cause: idiopathic. My doctor's assistant assumed I was too young for that, so he pronounced I had asthma, and by the time my actual doctor discovered the error, my injection fraction was 10  and 9would have been fatal. The ER staff turned pale (a lighter shade of pale). For five years, I was a number waiting for a heart transplant. I had three heart specialists and had been examined in three major NJ hospitals. One of the cardiologists was one of NJ's premier doctors. He let me research the meds and make my choices. I made all my own food and followed their advice and instructions. I was able to be removed from the heart waiting list, but remained "on early retirement". That is why I became the "house husband".

So when my wife was diagnosed with early-onset dementia, I just upped my efforts as a house husband and eased into my current job as her only caregiver.

My recent cardiological tests pronounced me as having (not a perfect heart), but a heart of a normal man nearing 80 years old.

Here is to medical science and the power of the mind over matter.

My cat Sunny asked Boomie if she wanted to know a secret.

Why Would a Woman Buy A used Car? For that matter, why would a woman accept a used horse as a gift?

It has served its owner well and continues to run smoothly, knows the way home on its own, and is low maintenance, and so on.

So. I am a seasoned husband and lover, and I still run well, know things, including how to be a great lover. With a vast, eclectic set of experiences and interests, I would make a great companion.

And I can cook too.

Jim

Today I am 78, and I have been hoping for sex from a FWB or even an acquaintance. Not so my wife's illness has rendered her asexual for at least five years now, and I remain the only caregiver so that I can host an acquaintance or a FWB, but I have come up empty too long again. I briefly had a FWB about 14 months ago, and that was my last sexual encounter.

It seems crazy on these BDSM sites and BDSM meetup sites, all the women I see are liberal and playful, but not here and not for me.

I hope a year from now I won't have to repeat this entry.

I had a dream. The dream was that I put together a kink party. Near the end of the dream, I was waiting near the front door for what seemed like endless hours. I finally gave in and realized by midnight, no one was going to come to my party.

Most of my life, I have practiced vanilla sex, but now I want to experiment and explore. The challenge is having a woman willing to help me experience new things. I am ready and willing. Still waiting for a lover.

Maybe a woman would enjoy me as their pet.

I would purr and rub up against her, lick her with affection, answer to my name, and come running, don't eat much, and be self-cleaning.

I would walk along with her and protect her, and I don't make much noise.

I can sleep with her and keep her warm while remaining vigilant for danger. pixabay.com

I see in the news all these men in politics having had paramours, concubines, escorts, and hookers. That indeed tells me why they are called men of privilege. Some committed sexual abuse and crime because they are so greedy. 

The difference between them and me isn't just my respect for women but my low status and limited wealth in this society. Pixabay.com

I am so kinky and sex starved because my wife is rendered asexual with dementia, I fantasize all day that I have a kinky woman to play with and we go hog wild with kinky games, sucking, licking, tongue poking. I have several mats for squirters and  I like a kinky woman who is horney.

Do playmate ads really work?