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The Culture that has been here all the time

When I was introduced to BDSM relationships, I realized they had existed probably for all of human history. Religion and Western Culture distort this and BDSM itself greatly, and if anything, an incredible hypocrisy is always present. Using codes and euphemisms, even denial can mask the fact that many people thrive within this often unrecognized subculture. For example, my wife had all the earmarks of a pleasure slave and was generally devoted and submissive to me. In times of marital friction, I often heard the words from a counselor, "She just wants you to love her." "Love her," I thought I was, and now I know without a doubt I need to be a Dominant, not some preconceived idea that we are to live as equals: we are not only one can be a Dom and one a sub at a time, but, it is perfectly fine if switching is desired at least now and then.
8 months ago. Friday, May 30, 2025 at 12:09 PM

Hey all, I am an avid watcher of British and Commonwealth-produced television programs. I love mysteries, some dramas/comedies, and historical milieus. What is strongly represented is relationships, mostly between men and women: old flames, love children, secret affairs. I embed myself in many characters because my life has reflected many of these situational relationships. Strange that my wife of forty years and I have been monogamous, but we did have checkered pasts nevertheless.

I empathize, become concerned, and feel so much of what good actors convey that on occasions, I feel bad for the character: Abused, raped, killed all reach me with sorrow but love's successes fill me with joy as well.

What is lacking in my reality blossoms in these shows. I even fell in love with some characters.

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8 months ago. Thursday, May 29, 2025 at 2:02 PM

A person can have an insatiable appetite for just about anything that can be craved: food, drink, money, and especially sex.

How would you describe a sexual partner who has an insatiable appetite to have sex? 

Google AI Overview
"In popular culture, a man or woman who consistently displays a strong desire for sexual activity may be called a nymphomaniac (for a woman) or a satyromaniac (for a man). However, these terms are considered outdated, and healthcare providers now use terms like "hypersexuality," "compulsive sexual behavior," or "sex addiction" to describe the condition. These terms apply to individuals of all genders and sexual orientations." 

Probably could have consulted sexologists in my life at one time or another, but worked through anomalous periods without their help. Strange though I met two sexologists in a social atmosphere, and true to human curiosity, I asked them (both were women BTW) questions and got some free professional advice.

Google AI Overview (as a lead in)
"If a partner expresses a strong desire for frequent sex, it can be a sign of several factors, including biological drives, emotional needs, or even psychological issues. 

Potential Reasons for a strong desire for frequent sex:
Biological Factors; Emotional Needs; Psychological Factors; Biological Factors; Emotional Needs; Psychological Factors.

Bottom line, most people who desire frequent sex fall within a normal spectrum and only require professional help if they exceed or fall far below the range.

 

8 months ago. Wednesday, May 28, 2025 at 7:14 PM

... two things: 1. Science is self-correcting as scientists work to explain how everything works, and 2. Humans, like all living things, cause change to our planet's environment. If I write it in this symbolic way: Science explains the way living things alter the planet Earth's environment and how natural processes process it.

Google Ai

"The extreme climates of Earth 100 million years ago were likely caused by a combination of factors, including high levels of greenhouse gases like carbon dioxide, changes in Earth's orbit, and volcanic activity. These factors led to a warmer, more humid planet with a significantly different climate compared to today." 

"Life has dramatically altered Earth throughout its history, starting with the emergence of photosynthetic organisms that transformed the atmosphere and ultimately paving the way for the development of complex life. ..."

Surveying climate history for the last 4.5 billion years is a history of stable time periods and dynamic time periods. At no point has the climate become permanently static. 

Unfortunately what whatever the cause, the climate will change, we, like our ancestors, must adapt in some way or perish.

All images pixabay.com

 

8 months ago. Wednesday, May 28, 2025 at 10:44 AM

A Visual sight of a Naked Woman excites me like most men, but only a physical entwinement can truly satisfy my desire.

Since I have become acquainted with BDSM, I have come to appreciate the differences and variety of women's bodies. I now respond (get aroused) to various appearances women present and convey. The reactions are automatic, not pre-chosen. Age and body type are varied. Yes, some looks seem to appeal to me more than others, but it is certainly the whole woman that counts with me: Her look, personality, and intellect.

all pixabay.com

8 months ago. Monday, May 26, 2025 at 11:00 AM

I am seventy-seven years old and stressed to the point that I feel weaker and less resilient. I can let idealism and nihilism haunt me even though they serve no purpose. On my better days, I remain optimistic that I will connect to a woman who would complement me, encourage me, and love me as my wife once did.

When a young man, I was adventurous and sought to explore the world and have a woman who was a soul mate along with me. Some of this dream was realized, yet like many dreams, fantasy is a big part of the description. Most of the dreams faded into the past, unfulfilled.

If I had some financial ability, I would move to a place like Tasmania. In my mind, it offers so many interesting things. A culture different yet familiar, and the view of the Southern Cross as well. A whole new mindset to adopt. Rekindle the fires of love within me.

When I wake each morning I see that where I live is nothing like the land I grew up in and loved for over seventy years. I already feel ostracized and mortified by the culture I live in, as the politics have transformed all my optimism that I once had into dread and sadness. (photo commons)

8 months ago. Saturday, May 24, 2025 at 7:12 PM

Today, I had flashbacks of times when my wife and I enjoyed simple things: rides in the country, our pets, shopping, and when our kids would visit and spend time with us.  Like a family meal, a picnic, a fishing trip, or a day at he beach.

The times when we were young, thinking about the future, doing these things seemed like they would last forever.

Now? Memories that I can relive alone because she has no memories. The kids don't visit family that would, too distant and aging (the ones still alive, that is), like us.

pixabay.com image

 

8 months ago. Saturday, May 24, 2025 at 10:43 AM

Scientists have debated what time is, and Einstein made a significant change in how we understand it, but this post isn't about that.

Time for me is like riding in a railroad car that never stops, and what I see from where I am seated, the view never changes. Oh sure, the weather changes, and it goes from day to night and back again. Care for my wife and pets is the same each minute, of each hour of each day... and so on.

No friends or family visit us, I am retired from work, and activities are redundant. Why write this?

A common occurrence in this time reality of ours is, I was unaware that this is a Holiday weekend: Memorial Day.

Time to remember family from previous wars and a friend who was KIA at the Siege of Kay Sahn.

8 months ago. Friday, May 23, 2025 at 9:31 AM

My wife seems stable at her new level of more care needed. No word from social workers or our doctors to get more help. Without mentioning details, the current political climate is not favorable for people like me and my wife to get help. 

A friend is attempting to find a helper for me who can stay with us. 

Being eight years older than my wife, I am concerned that soon (not too soon, I hope)  I will need someone to provide help for me.

Recently, one morning, I woke to find one of my dogs had died during the night. Now I am paranoid when I wake up about my wife's condition.

When people ask me what I do for fun, I have no answer any longer: I am blank.

One day at a time, hanging in.

pixabay.com 'Blackout'

8 months ago. Tuesday, May 20, 2025 at 4:34 PM

My wife kept slipping out of the wheelchair, so I purchased one that tilts back, and that helped a great deal.

8 months ago. Sunday, May 18, 2025 at 1:01 PM

The evidence gathered through eons and thousands of years of observation is that lifeforms only live one lifetime.

Hundreds to a couple of thousand years for trees, and one day

Google AI Overview
"The animal with the shortest lifespan is the mayfly, which lives for only one day, primarily to mate and reproduce. Many mayfly species live for just 24 hours in their adult form. However, their entire life cycle, including the nymph stage, can take up to two years." 

Let us consider a wheat plant for one season:

Stars die, galaxies die, and for all we know, this universe will perish. The recycled constituent parts are not aware of what living thing they came from. Procreation with seeds, eggs,... may carry some mutation from a gene change, but this is not conveyed into the consciousness of the new creature.

Note to religious folks, don't bother after almost eighty years of life, this is my firm belief. Recent world events cemented this belief more firmly than ever. Jim