Long before I learned what BDSM was, what a Dom or a sub was, or a switch was, I had sexually stimulated imagination early in life. I didn't know my interest in sexual excitement and the variations I imagined and fantasized would be termed KINKY. Many lovers and two marriages later, the woman who would be the most exciting lover of my thirties said to me one day, "You are kinky aren't you?" Then, decades later, and a long-term third marriage to a woman who was an unhindered lover, it came to me in an epiphany, she was submissive but also a teacher for me, and the result is I have an even more open mind on sexual behavior.
Dom, Switch or sub matter little to me, what matters most is extending a love-making session and satisfaction for my lover and myself. Like a doctor who has a PRACTICE, learns and gains experience, I would enjoy that concept, if only it were true for me now able to practice. My wife has been neutralized by her brain disorder and she has lost an interest in experimenting with lovemaking as she was for so long, asexual now. The common idiom overused as it is "life is what it is" is a reality for me.
Like a captain who goes down with the ship, he is still the captain, a general that falls in battle, he is still the general, or an investor who loses everything is still an investor, their demise doesn't terminate their designation.
Not sexually active as I am in no way voids the description that I am a kinky lover.