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The Culture that has been here all the time

When I was introduced to BDSM relationships, I realized they had existed probably for all of human history. Religion and Western Culture distort this and BDSM itself greatly, and if anything, an incredible hypocrisy is always present. Using codes and euphemisms, even denial can mask the fact that many people thrive within this often unrecognized subculture. For example, my wife had all the earmarks of a pleasure slave and was generally devoted and submissive to me. In times of marital friction, I often heard the words from a counselor, "She just wants you to love her." "Love her," I thought I was, and now I know without a doubt I need to be a Dominant, not some preconceived idea that we are to live as equals: we are not only one can be a Dom and one a sub at a time, but, it is perfectly fine if switching is desired at least now and then.
10 months ago. Monday, March 31, 2025 at 9:43 AM

It seems most BDSM People honestly explain themselves. If you are seeking a Unicorn, a Little, a Sex Slave, or a plain Vanilla Sub, these attributes and many more are displayed up front. Nudity assists in identifying attraction preferences, such as breast size, and the male and female genitalia variations are offered, like just about nowhere else.

I have learned that certain vagina or vulva are more appealing to me. Smaller breasts likewise. I have a penus about six inches but its circumference is above the average. I am circumcised.

In society, it is typical to find a mate fall in love and adapt to what you both get sexually, but BDSM changes not only that, but we can reflect on body type preferences, and many love-making tendencies as well

Here within the BDSM society, I can define my likes and dislikes and tell a potential lover what my limits are and in what way I like to experiment. In general, one excellent lover I had before my current marriage explained to me how I was "kinky". In my nature but ignorant of this trait.

I was married three times, and by chance, my current wife of forty years and I were an excellent sexual pair until dementia destroyed us as lovers. The first two not so much. Youthful sexual exploits were all about my being satisfied, now I strive to please my lover more.

Thank you, BDSM community and especially this site for being so educational. I only regret not realizing all these benefits as a young man.

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