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The Culture that has been here all the time

When I was introduced to BDSM relationships, I realized they had existed probably for all of human history. Religion and Western Culture distort this and BDSM itself greatly, and if anything, an incredible hypocrisy is always present. Using codes and euphemisms, even denial can mask the fact that many people thrive within this often unrecognized subculture. For example, my wife had all the earmarks of a pleasure slave and was generally devoted and submissive to me. In times of marital friction, I often heard the words from a counselor, "She just wants you to love her." "Love her," I thought I was, and now I know without a doubt I need to be a Dominant, not some preconceived idea that we are to live as equals: we are not only one can be a Dom and one a sub at a time, but, it is perfectly fine if switching is desired at least now and then.
3 days ago. Friday, March 6, 2026 at 9:16 AM

Even before my wife passed, she was either on the living room sofa bed or the hospital bed provided by Hospice, so I was sleeping alone. Wait, that is not entirely true. My dog lay against my back, and my cat cuddled close to me; both helped me stay warm on cold nights. They reminded me of my loss. Not just the loss of my wife, but the realization that, through fifty-plus years, I always had an intimate partner and seldom slept without her.

Yes, they remind me of too much; too many good memories. Happy they are here, partially to penetrate my lonely existence.

I keep busy running this house and practicing my guitar, and I'm able to run out for errands, but being a transplant to this nice old town has lasting consequences: I only get to know people here in a cursory way.

Longevity runs or ran in my family, and I cannot remember any family member living out their last days in this kind of situation. Family members were always visiting them until their end.

I guess this is the way it will be for the first humans who colonize Mars.


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