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The Culture that has been here all the time

When I was introduced to BDSM relationships, I realized they had existed probably for all of human history. Religion and Western Culture distort this and BDSM itself greatly, and if anything, an incredible hypocrisy is always present. Using codes and euphemisms, even denial can mask the fact that many people thrive within this often unrecognized subculture. For example, my wife had all the earmarks of a pleasure slave and was generally devoted and submissive to me. In times of marital friction, I often heard the words from a counselor, "She just wants you to love her." "Love her," I thought I was, and now I know without a doubt I need to be a Dominant, not some preconceived idea that we are to live as equals: we are not only one can be a Dom and one a sub at a time, but, it is perfectly fine if switching is desired at least now and then.
2 years ago. Wednesday, January 31, 2024 at 1:26 PM

I wonder how many people sought to find the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. Maybe real gold by panning in a stream. Or the BIG WIN in PowerBall? First I suggest you clearly define exactly what gaining riches means and whether is it the answer to everything for you.

Me? Having a lot of something means you also have a lot of responsibility. Keeping it may be a big distraction and a destroyer of pure joy. Let's consider your sex partner. After experiencing many lovers do you know what works best for you? If you meet up with that person does it last? You realize every kind of relationship is a mutual agreement and requires give and take by each participant.  Contentment?

Contentment isn't settling for something it is appreciating what you have and enjoying it as much as possible. My worst experiences? The old cliche' that the grass is always greener in the other pasture. I do not know perfect anything in this world. Love does cover imperfection but even love is an action word. However you define it, work on it so it is a success for both lovers.


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