How many shades of grey are there? "....... in real life, the human eye can distinguish more than 500 shades of grey."The 101 Shades Of Grey: How Many Different Shades Are You? Frank BiFormer Staff Feb 17, 2015
Relationships in the BDSM world are probably nearly of an infinite variety but I will focus on Master/Slave and Dom/Sub in this post.
If a Master spells out everything a slave must comply with that would seem to be the goalpost on one end of the field and if the Master is liberal and allows much discretionary latitude this could be the goalpost on the other end of the field. How many yards in between and how variable the relationships are (or could be) is decided and implemented by the Master and the Slave. If we slide over to Dom and Sub the variables could increase by many factors.
I a new Dom do not fully grasp the situation since I have no experience, then I meet and enter into a relationship with a sub in a similar position. Is there a book of ironclad protocols, not really. We observe others ask questions and find blogs, magazines, and books and discover a mutually agreeable starting point (it could be a lot of work if you care to make it so) but I did some of that and just have decided to plunge right in and as mentioned in a previous post a work in progress where Dom and Sub learn from each other. So what is the glue here?
Is it lust, love, friendship a partnership all of that and more? All or in part may be enough to have a nice beginning. The degree of glue is up to you as to how strong you want the bond. Permanent all-weather type? Temporary holding power? A sticky but loose that it barely holds type?
If the main purpose of M/S is freedom from convention then steer clear of convention and go with what you want the relationship to be. Keep in mind if you get what you ask for and you don't like it change it or chalk it up to experience and move on taking what you have learned into the next relationship.
Some how I omitted trust thanks to SnowMinx{owned}sub female I include it as glue (I should have known that what an omission)
