Hello Friends,
If you connect to a potential lover but it isn't an exact match and it would require too much compromising: let them go. It may be admirable to say I will accept you and secretly hope both of you can make adjustments but that is a risk I tried to take and only wound up with a broken heart. You may think it will click or it won't, there is chemistry or there is none but with so many millions of people, I believe there are better connections to be had. Finding that person is a challenge indeed. I just came close this morning but it ended abruptly when she told me she graduated from the local High School and knew many people in this town. She is married to someone who offers absolutely no sex and that is like my situation. At first it seemed perfect until the local person's reality popped up. I had to end the possible lover relationship immediately.
No, I will not push, persuade, or coerce her it is something she is not comfortable with and I can not overcome that point. It is best to just let her go. The irony? Her recent long-term lover of 15 years was exactly in the same situation as I am with my wife. But then his wife died and that changed everything for them.
I discovered the predicament I am in is therefore not unique. That somehow doesn't solve my hunger for a lover though does it?