Hello Friends,
You probably are saying, "We know all about kinks." This website has a lot to offer on understanding and using kinks safely. This is about my view and how I came to understand myself.
I have mentioned that my wife, who a brain disease has afflicted, was a sub and also introduced me to more about my kinky side hitherto not recognized by me. We have been married 39 years, and just before we got married (in between wife number two and my current wife), I had a wild girlfriend who was herself kinky, and she told me I was kinky. What did that mean?
A kink is an act performed in conjunction with or before a sexual act that enhances the sex act itself.
My girlfriend told me that my giving her oral sex was the trigger that excited me, and it must have excited her, too. I also explored her body, looking for areas that aroused her. She liked dressing in sexy lingerie with snaps that kept a flap closed over her nipples and her crotch. She would call me with the words, "Are you busy?" A clear signal she was horney. On a ride, I would pull over to look at the autumn leaves in full color. We immediately began to play with our genitals, ignoring other cars as they passed. Even in a park with people walking around seemed to excite her. I suppose because I went along with this behavior, we were being kinky. Well, we broke up for unrelated reasons. I now know my first two marriages were tame, except for the spontaneity of having sex on many occasions, nothing like that.
I met my current wife, a devout Christian, and she first said, "What we do in private is our business as long as no one gets hurt." So I saw a photo of her dressed like a cowgirl on a bed and caught her watching porn. She told me men resisted having their anus played with. I discovered she liked beads and other objects to play with. I found she liked rimming and welcomed my tongue in its search for erogenous zones. If she had not become severely afflicted by dementia, we probably would have continued to explore things that aroused us.
This dry spell has given me a chance to read and explore. That is how I wound up in BDSM, M/S, but it is still from theory, not having the chance yet to practice what I have learned or my willingness to learn.
P.S. I forgot my wife called me Daddy (I didn't think much about that before).