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The Culture that has been here all the time

When I was introduced to BDSM relationships, I realized they had existed probably for all of human history. Religion and Western Culture distort this and BDSM itself greatly, and if anything, an incredible hypocrisy is always present. Using codes and euphemisms, even denial can mask the fact that many people thrive within this often unrecognized subculture. For example, my wife had all the earmarks of a pleasure slave and was generally devoted and submissive to me. In times of marital friction, I often heard the words from a counselor, "She just wants you to love her." "Love her," I thought I was, and now I know without a doubt I need to be a Dominant, not some preconceived idea that we are to live as equals: we are not only one can be a Dom and one a sub at a time, but, it is perfectly fine if switching is desired at least now and then.
1 year ago. Friday, May 17, 2024 at 10:13 AM

Hello Friends,

I discovered age issues between lovers are not a problem for many folks.

An older friend asked me that some time ago, and I thought it was a common issue, but as I lived longer, I discovered that the opposite was the case. Then came an issue tied to our culture that is harder to ignore: Financial Issues.

Another friend older than myself was once well off, but an adverse turn in his fortunes depleted his wealth. His wife also passed away about the same time, and he found himself alone. We were raised in a cultural environment where if a man could not maintain his self-reliance, he was in danger of losing the respect of others and self-respect. My friend met a wealthy woman, and they fell in love, but he was distraught because she was about to assume the role of supporter for both of them.

He asked me if this was a bad situation and whether he should seek a woman who was on par with his situation. The culture we grew up within would have demanded it. My answer?

We all must follow what is given to us, and in this situation, the only people who counted were she and he. Live in the envelope of love you both enjoy and ignore the nay-sayers.


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