Drinfear's Ravings

 Today marks a month that Flitter has been living here full time.. It ALSO happens to be My Flitter's Birthday.. (as most Gentlemen do, I will NOT list the number.. SHE can, as can others out here..) 

 But I want to wish My Flitter the VERY happiest of Birthdays on HER Day, and want to do all I can to help her in ANY way Daddy can, to make it the best day she has ever had.. She is already on that trajectory.. I just want to keep that momentum going for the rest of her day..

 PLEASE, wish My Flitter a Happy Birthday with Me..

I love you, My princess FlitterFly..

Dom

 My Flitter let the cat out of the bag.. So here is a pic of Me at 17.. PLEASE note no mosses, can, chocolate or otherwise, were harmed in the taking of this picture.. My friend made a post where someone pondered about mousses getting hurt back in the 80's.. 

 I wrote a song many years ago.. It came out as a poem.. I hope I am able to find it again, having recently returned to a site I have not made an appearance on in many a year.. This is the chorus to that song..

 She kneels to respect the power she gave Him,

Over all she is, or she ever will be.

 Her trust in Him warmly engulfs her,

THIS is what being free really means.

 She knows she was born only to serve Him,

Knowing a commitment few marriages will ever know,

 He smiles as He wraps a hand in her hair,

Thus starts the taming of her soul..

Dom

11/29/10

   Again, I sit here cold and empty,

My past, it seems, has returned once more..

 My battered heart was once more offered,

To only fall and be further trampled on the floor.

 Solitude is again rearing it's head,

Loneliness creeping in from behind.

 Will this cycle ever truly end,

just one of many questions on this weary mind.

 I've spent whole lifetimes searching, it seems,

For the one to become wholly My Own.

 I know that she's out there, somewhere,

Where she is hiding the Gods only know.

 I know that it's just an illusion,

That in time it will all pass somehow.

 One day I'll awake, the pain will be gone,

So why not make one day right NOW..?

Dom

08/21/17

 It has been brought to My attention over several blogs now which I have read, and even responded to, on occasion.. It can be summed up most succinctly by the phrase 'in this day and age we don't settle'.. I agree the times are coming to the point where 'I want what I want, and I want it NOW' is the 'norm'.. This mentality is fine and I am NOT here to judge anyone for anything they choose to do.. That is NOT My goal or My place in life.. 

  I am a recently turned 55 year old Dom/Master/ (but MOSTLY) Daddy.. I DO understand, FAR too well, that in 2024 'we don't settle, I have far too much experience over the years of looking through app after app and website after website..  I am the FIRST to preach safety, especially when meeting someone online face-to-face.. I HAVE been that advocate for years now, and have EVEN 'secretly chaperoned' such meetings in the past.. Having been present and in the moment in case the meeting went wrong in her opinion .. I WOULD like to point out, however, in MY opinion ONLY here, a days worth of conversation is sometimes NOT enough to agree to a face to face meeting.. There is more than ONE side to the safety issue, 'ESPECIALLY in 2024'.. SOME out here do need to talk and establish a foundation of Trust and Respect before agreeing to such face-to-face meetings..
That being said, meeting someone one day online and agreeing to a meeting is fine, as long as both parties stay safe.. Remain vigilant and stay aware of what is going on around YOU, if this is the case.. ALWAYS let others know WHERE you're going and WHO you are meeting.. Safety first is ALWAYS the clear and present issue.. But SOME out here DO need a deeper connection than just one day of talking before feeling safe to meet in person..

  SOME out here, on EITHER side of the D/s or M/s or even the DD/lg dynamic can be hiding issues.. Issues that become apparent after more than just ONE day of talking back and forth.. TIME spent CAN be spent on someone not worthy, BUT isn't it better to learn THROUGH these conversations that they throw red flags before meeting face-to-face where these flags can turn into physical harm or WORSE..?

 Just a couple songs I sing and the girls love to hear.. First of all, Natalie's favorite.. When I sing it, it puts her (ALMOST instantly) to sleep..

Then there are songs My Flitter loves Me singing THIS song..

another song I sang for Flitter that caught her off guard..

LASTLY, a song I sang for Flitter that blew her mind 

I hope others enjoy these just like My girls do..

*EDITED There IS a song I have sung to Natalie that I believe Flitter has not had the chance to hear yet.. Thar song would be..

Dom

  I read a forum post recently which I have NOT been able to forget..

This individual, whom I will NOT call out by name, expressed that anyone listing 'CHILDREN' in their limits is, in THEIR opinion, NOT a 'DOM' type to be taken seriously, thus, by their own wording, a 'wannabe'.. THIS person, to MY present knowledge, HAS no children, or if they DO, would not ever consider offering them as 'offerings' to a prospective 'dom' type.. I commend them for their morals and stance in the matter, but DO want to point out that not EVERY person has their moral 'code', per se.. I only want to point out though YOU may not consider such an offering, there ARE those that use this prospect to entice OTHER like minded individuals to respond to them..

SOME out here having been around QUITE a while, have HAD such offerings made in the past, and ONLY want to ensure such offerings are NOT made in the present or FUTURE.. JUST because it is listed as a limit, doesn't detract from their 'status', and if YOU see it as such, that is YOUR right.. NO judgements on YOUR part, because YOU have NOT made such an offering.. Just be aware that just because YOU won't make such an offer, doesn't mean OTHERS won't.. So SOME of U/us, and if I am wrong here, I apologize, or in fact MOST of U/us that list children as a HARD limit, have HAD others that have made such an offer in the past.. AND it has happened FAR too many times so W/we have chosen to list it as a hard limit to ensure others do not approach U/us with said offers,,

 I DO hope this might open eyes to some that detract from the value of someone that has received such offers in the past, here, or otherwise, so that the person feels the nevessity to POST such things as a 'limit' T/they are not willing to even consider..

 Today I got a whole 5 hours of sleep.. Now I understand 5 hours may not seem like a lot to some, ME included!!, but considering the bad weather rolling through O/our area as well as having FIVE females in the Household, all of whom are on the same biological clock, and at 'THAT' time of the month, ALL want to climb Mount Testosterone and fall asleep on Mount Daddy. 5 hours of sleep is a blessing.. I awoke today to Natalie getting ready for work at 4 in the afternoon.. A co-worker was hit by a drunk driver and she agreed to work his shift AND hers.. Down side.. SHE only got 3 hours of sleep herself.. But My Flitter, who got NO sleep, apparently, spent her afternoon posting blogs and sending Daddy funny videos..

 THIS is the video I woke up to in My messages, and it is now My favorite song of all time.. 

I hope it gives others the same smiles it gave ME this sleep deprived afternoon.. 

Dom

 In My life, lifestyle and otherwise, I have realized there are three sides to every situation.. MY side.. THEIR side.. and somewhere in between is the TRUTH.. SOME of the time, said versions align and are one and the same. But far more often, one side or the other is spoken more loudly, or sometimes even spoken at all, so becomes the public history of events as they transpired, regardless of how tilted the telling of said events truly are.. To the Victor go the spoils, AND the right to write history from THEIR point of view.. The losers in said conflict have no input in this 'history' because they have been subjugated or silenced entirely, as the case may be..

  I learned the hard way, having read through hundreds, if not more, of accounts from the viewpoints of the losers of certain conflicts.. (Most importantly the American Civil War) I will not delve into the right or wrong of either side, NOR into the way the winning side is taught in History classes as the RIGHT side of the conflict.. As I said, to the Victors go the spoils, and the right to write the History as THEY see it.. There are SOME conflicts that do not come to blows.. No shot is ever fired, and one side decides the fight is not worth the expenditure, or the effort to rectalfy (YES, it is spelled wrong on porpoise) SOME know they are right in the conflict in question, and do not deign to dive into the mud to clarify their position.. They believe, justly, or sometimes wrongly in some cases, their reputation will speak for itself in the Community.. Right or wrong, they feel that ONE side of a situation should not be taken as FACT when they have not been contacted to see THEIR point of view in the matter, even if they are not fighting to make their view heard.

 I will not get into the mud slinging side of ANY conflict, especially when I have 'no dog in the fight'.. But I only ask this.. If you HEAR a story, check the alternate side before condemning the party in question.. Sometimes the story you might be hearing can be slanted in favor of the one telling it, and that slant could lead to misunderstandings that could cost valuable friendships and individuals in your life that could help propel you to heights undreamed of, or insights into yourself that will amaze the most amazing among U/us..

 Sometimes these 'alternate facts' are less LIES, per se, as much as omitting facts to prevent the party from telling them to be seen in the wrong light

 This is just My PERSONAL belief, again, learned the hard way over the course of My life..

Dom

 I WANTED to write something here that was cerebral and thought provoking.. I settled for one of the most profound incidents in My life.. A new revelation to MOST here, about the myriad of incidents and decisions that have created this Warrior that stands before Y/you, and awaits Y/your judgement/antipathy.. I have already shown, I do not try to hide from My mistakes, nor do I use them as excuses for being the Warrior/Man/DOM I am today.. They're not excuses to be Me, they're the REASON I am this Person, and quite honestly, I'm extremely proud of the Man that looks back at Me from the mirror every day.. But that's neither here nor there..

 My VERY first memory of life was looking up as My 'mom' (and YES, I use that term loosely by design) picked up a 4 pound peanut butter jar and heaved it at My head.. I was 3. I SAW it coming and ducked, only to have it shatter against the wall behind Me.. I spun around only to catch the majority of it ricochet into My face, which left Me deeply scarred on My right cheek which is still visible to this day (52 years later).. this was the FIRST of 4 attempts this woman made trying to take My life.. The LAST attempt in Oct 1974, this woman actually KILLED My Dad by running Him over as He was driving 60 on His motorcycle.. HE was pronounced dead at the scene, and over an hour later, in the hospital, IN the morgue, IN a body bag, as they were pushing Him into a drawer to await autopsy, He spontaneously revived and sat up.. (scaring the Coroner on Duty so badly He walked out and never went back.. )

 This is just a few more of aforementioned incidents and decisions that have compounded to forge Me into this being I am snd continue to evolve into being. Like most people, I only seek to be the best version of ME that I can be, I KNOW this takes growth and accepting lessons in life as the learning experience they are meant to be, thus continuing to open My eyes and grow ever better. I have had some hardships in My life, living through these, too, has forged My body into something I fail to recognize at times, as compared to the days of My youth when I was far more mobile and able to use the abilities I have learned over the years.. Running is not the least of the things this crippled old Monster's body can no longer do.. Enter the Flitter.. She is sooo much a force of Nature. She wants what is best for Me, AND the Family, and she pushes Me to follow through at times when previously, I would have let My pain and apathy prevent Me from taking another step..  It almost feels as if I was withering away letting My body deteriorate a little at a time, and with all that has transpired in My life over the past 3 years, had accepted the Fate I saw coming for Me, and in all honesty, had let Myself create.

 I have made appointments, and continue to do so with Flitter's help and pressure. She stands behind Me, with PrincessFlitterP, pushing Me ever on, through the pain, pushing Me to get ever closer to the Man I remember Myself being.. During all this time of Trials and Tribulations, I never allowed My duties to My Family falter or go unfulfilled, I only let Myself be distracted from things I needed to do to fix ME. I believe THIS is why God has brought Flitter into O/our lives, and I can only give thanks to the Powers That Be for doing so..

I started this experience almost a month ago.. FAR before Flitter entered the Home.. But finished it tonight, 3/03/2024 to show the impact this woman has had in My life after JUST 3 weeks together..