loyaldabbyredsubgirl(sub female){NotSeeking}

Waiting for another night to remember pt 1

Serving power dynamics

1 day ago. October 14, 2024 at 4:56 PM

I grew up with my father cooking everything for me. I did eventually learn to cook under him * Insert picture of fried potato kielbasa*. I feel like it's expected of me to have dinner ready upon arrival. But there's this weird power dynamic of my father always coming home to cook to take care of me. He would call 3+ times a day and ask if I had eaten anything yet. This gave me a power dynamic I must be missing. Unpopular opinion " cooking us a blue job, baking is a pink job" If you come home to a full meal from me it will be perfectly planned otherwise you'll come home to those babygirl eyes looking up at you to cook with me and dab me up. It's alot harder to cook since going gluten free. I feel the need for approval of a meal idea before I have the confidence to jump into it. Missing my dabby daddy xoxo

TopekaDom(dom male) - Cooking dynamics within the lifestyle can he a hard thing. There is always the 50s Household idea that the s type cooks and serves the D type at the table. Then there are the pets who care serve their food and have to wait til they are told they can eat (sometimes at the table, sometimes on the floor).

The thing is I love to cook. Not just on the grill, but all around the kitchen. I do some baking, but not a great deal.

So what it all really comes down to: Each relationship can do as they feel.

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Sweet Ginger(sub female){⚓ } - I agree with Topeka within every dynamic there is two people. At the end of the day, it doesn't matter what others think, (who cares), those worried about what your doing most likely have no life! what's important is what works for those two.

I also grew up with fond memories of my dad making pancakes on Sundays and we would all make a mess in the kitchen, my dad, saying mom will be made at all of us. ;).

I love to cook, making things for those I love..I also enjoy the connection of cooking with a man.

Do what works for you!

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loyaldabbyredsubgirl(sub female){NotSeeking} - I have high hopes that our lifestyles will blend together nicely. I have no doubt he would figure out what works. Where I'm at currently is where the serving is not adequate. I buy all the groceries and bake so I expect him to cook to take care of me but then I'm the bad sub for not having dinner ready. I want to have a move in trial period with my dom before committing but it just doesn't fit into the current situation I'm in. I want it so bad but how can I leave stability, when I haven't even recieved true stability yet from my dom

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Umberlee{Invictus } - I love this- however and our friends get this - my Aiden cannot cook. Thoracic surgery sure but other than grilled cheese and a few other things - no. He can absolutely grill, but the stovetop and the oven have resulted in a smokey kitchen.. and once open flames. (Sorry Sir)

I love to have him in the kitchen though. I come from a family where -everyone- cooked. Food is a love language and everyone has a specialty dish. Even as strictly as he eats- I love that I have to send him biscuits if he’s away too long (shortbread is apparently an addiction- who knew). If I cook he loads the dishwasher. It’s his thank you.

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loyaldabbyredsubgirl(sub female){NotSeeking} - I understand if he physically can't, it's always nice to have company in the kitchen. There's just a sense of nurturing in my head when the man cooks from my Father always cooking. I would find something like always having something baked for breakfast in return.

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Umberlee{Invictus } - Oh I am sure he physically could but no reason for him to do so. My father, however, is an amazing cook.

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loyaldabbyredsubgirl​(sub female){NotSeeking}

Waiting for another night to remember pt 1

Serving power dynamics

loyaldabbyredsubgirl(sub female){NotSeeking}