At your deepest core belief, do you think you are worthy of love?
At the core of who I am, I have struggled with the belief that I was worthy of love. I can clearly remember a time, when I would have answered "no" without hesitation to the question of whether I deserved love. I lived much of my life wrapped in uncertainty, feeling disconnected from the belief that I was worthy of not just affection, but respect, basic kindness, even from myself. It wasn't a conscious choice to believe this, but rather a silent assumption that was built over years of experiences and perceptions that clouded my sense of self worth.
But something began to shift. Little by little, through experiences that forced me to confront my own limitations and potential, I began to unravel this old belief. The journey to where I am now hasn’t been a straightforward one. It involved learning to trust, to open myself up, and to give myself the compassion I had so often withheld from myself. Being in relationships, particularly with both of my Masters, has been a crucial part of this process. Their guidance and the way they have shown me what healthy love, trust, and respect look like has been transformative.
In addition to that, seeking therapy played a pivotal role in reworking the foundation of how I saw myself. Therapy gave me the tools to address the hurt, the doubts, and the shadows that had taken root in my heart over the years. I learned how to create boundaries, not just with others, but with myself. Boundaries that allowed me to say "no" when I needed to, and "yes" to self care and respect. Through this, I realized that it is okay to make mistakes. I don’t have to be perfect. I don’t have to have everything figured out. In fact, I deserve grace just as much as anyone else.
And here I am now, standing in the belief that I am worthy of love. I am worthy of respect. I am worthy of happiness. I have come to understand that this worthiness does not come from perfection or earning love through performance, it simply exists because I am human. I am deserving of care, both from others and from myself. This knowledge has not only deepened my relationships, but it has also allowed me to live more fully and with greater peace in my own skin.
It is amazing, isn't it? How much can shift when we stop believing the stories we tell ourselves that say we’re not enough. When we allow ourselves the gift of being imperfect and still believing we are worthy, it is like a weight lifts. It opens space for true connection, for love that isn’t conditional or fleeting.
I am not the same person I was years ago. And I know I still have growth ahead of me. But today, at my core, I know this: I am worthy of love. And so are you.