This will be a collection of thirty days, dedicated to reflecting on the things I deeply appreciate and feel gratitude for in my Masters. Each day, I will note three specific actions or qualities they’ve shown that I’m thankful for. This practice is meant to help me stay grounded, cultivate a heart of gratitude, and shift my focus toward the positive, allowing me to see their goodness more clearly instead of dwelling on the negatives.
Also, they have NO idea I have done this.
Day 1:
Calvin Koch:
Getting on webcam to calm me down.
Explaining things to me I dont understand
Getting all of his stuff done promptly when I asked so we can spend time together.
Damon Koch:
Bringing me home chimichangas
Taking my mother to the store
Getting a book for us to work on our dynamics more.
Day 2:
Calvin Koch:
Helped a stranger today.
Came rushing out from his nap thinking I was in danger.
Checked on me in the middle of the night when I had a nightmare.
Damon Koch:
Drove without complaining even though it was stressful, bumper to bumper.
Ordered me extra happy meals just so I can get more presents for my collection.
Was happy giving me some privacy with my Master Calvin. Even though he did not have to.
Day 3:
Calvin Koch:
Helped me with legal work.
Listened to me without judgment today about how my feelings changed on a legal topic.
Surprises me with information he has been gathering to assist both of my parents in their situations.
Damon Koch:
Did the adulting thing with the car
Listened to me when I was upset without getting defensive.
Reminded me about class on Zoom
Day 4:
Calvin Koch:
Helping my mother out of the car.
Cleaning the litterbox without asking
Constantly asking me if what we just did I considered quality time.
Damon Koch:
Did a great job on his tests at work
Is doing better on his carb count
Took care of me during bed time
Day 5:
Calvin Koch:
Took my mother to the store
Made dinner for everyone even though it wasnt his job.
Calls his mother to make sure she is okay.
Damon Koch:
Took personal time to decompress. I love it when he advocates for his mental health.
Helped me locate something via a phone call.
Offered to pick me up take out since Pork is for dinner and I dont like pork.
Day 6:
Calvin Koch:
Got me an ice pack without my asking for it.
Did not ask me what I wanted for breakfast. ARFID issues. If you know. You know.
Helped Damon box chicken even though he was in a lot of pain
Damon Koch:
Renewed his work license by passing mandated tests.
Helped Calvin with dinner.
Got me something different to eat so I didnt have to eat burgers.
Day 7:
Calvin Koch:
Helped keep the doors closed at the MAsT Meeting.
Was helpful keeping the table cleaned up for the waitress
Participated in all the conversations at the meeting. So proud of him.
Damon Koch:
Ordered my foods without really asking me what I wanted. Appreciated it.
Participated at the MAsT meeting. So proud of him as well.
Took care of my migraine swiftly. I would have gone to the ER but he rescued me.
BOTH: Really stepped up in the Dominant headspace tonight and it allowed my anxiety to calm down so I am grateful immensely for this.
Day 8:
Calvin Koch:
Appreciate him assisting in the community of new comers instead of just being super exclusive.
Found out that our car has a recall and got us that information.
Took care of hard chores even though he was exhausted and running on fumes
Damon Koch:
So happy that he reached out to the Dominants at the MAsT meeting on our behalf.
Created the most beautiful art piece of an elf. I love it when he draws
Was able to admit where he has done wrong to me about something in our relationship for the last nine years. I am grateful for him doing this.
Day 9:
Calvin Koch:
Got soaked in the rain so my mother and I would not need to.
Protected me when we almost got into a car accident.
Was always present throughout the day.
Damon Koch:
Picked up my nephew even if he didnt want to but it was pouring rain so I appreciate him doing so.
Did not panic while he was driving a stressful time today.
Ran to get the car in the rain so my mom and I didnt have to get soaked. He brought the car to us at the store instead. So kind.
Day 10:
Calvin Koch:
Did the laundry while Damon and I were out shopping.
Helped me get some information on a topic in kink.
Did his best to make spaghetti sauce that I would enjoy. So sweet.
Damon Koch:
Did really good about getting his shift maintained at work
Talked my mom into trying something new which I appreciated so much.
Made sure he relaxed after our busy day so he could decompress.
Day 11:
Calvin Koch:
Started working on the Handbook.
Spent some great bonding time with Damon for a good nearly two hours while they had their cigars.
Communicated and cleared up some misunderstandings without being defensive.
Damon Koch:
Got up on the treadmill and is sticking to it.
Made sure to stay clear of me so I do not get sick.
Went out of his way to get my mom something to eat.
Day12:
Calvin Koch:
Made my mom waffles even though she was too stubborn to ask for them.
Was supportive of me going to the store without him. Which is huge.
Did the head caress thing I really love without me having to beg for it.
Damon Koch:
Painted my toes for me even though he was still feeling really sick.
Did a great job on promoting the novel he is writing. So proud of him.
Is actively taking time to accomplish a goal.
Day 13:
Calvin Koch:
Just held me without complaint when I was super emotional about my friend possibly being cancer free.
Put me to bed when I fell asleep on the couch
Was very kind and polite to the waiter, even though the level of service was not up to our standards.
Damon Koch:
Let me try to do something and did not get upset with me when I could not complete the task.
Paid the bill for a friend of ours when we went out to dinner and didnt even have to be asked or anything. So kind.
Picked out a dress for me. How amazing I felt wearing it.
Day 14:
Calvin Koch:
heard me in pain in the middle of the night and got me my Mr. Pickles to snuggle to make me feel better.
Comes out to check on me to make sure there is not an issue.
Always sits with me in the steam even though he hates it.
Damon Koch:
Made a better omelet than IHOP.
Did some research to protect me.
Show great concern about my feelings in regards to our dynamic.
Day 15:
Calvin Koch:
Took care of me in the shower when I was dying my hair becuase I have limited range of motion with my arm.
Never gets upset when asked to do something.
Took a really adorable picture of himself with the kitties. So amazing.
Damon Koch:
Sat through a very difficult situation but remained a very mature adult about it.
Came into a voice chat and met someone I was friends with who does not have the same beliefs as us. Yet he had good character and integrity and did not judge this person. Instead it was a very pleasant conversation. Bridging the gap!
Went out of his way to get my mother lunch from a restaurant even though he wasnt feeling well.
Day 16:
Calvin Koch:
Took a cute picture of Damon and I.
Helped to get the paystubs
Got all dressed up. He looked so dapper and delicious.
Damon Koch:
Kept me calm at the doctors.
Took me to play Pokemon Go since I was sad
Sticking to his diet. So proud of him
Day 17:
Calvin Koch:
Did really cute things in regards to loving himself.
Played with the rope which makes me feel so free
Took care of the DMV for his Real ID to travel.
Damon Koch:
Made the most awesome of Business Cards
Makes me laugh so much. I appreciate that
Did the adulting thing with the DMV
Day 18:
Calvin Koch:
Handled the toilet issue without being asked.
Did not stress me out, but handled things without my even knowing.
Goes out of his way to make sure I am smiling.
Damon Koch:
Handled important stuff with the new slave.
Does cute little silly dances for me. Like the Ice Ice Baby.
Works so damn hard at work. I am so proud of him.
Day 19:
Calvin Koch:
Working hard on the Koch Handbook.
Called around to get information for me for Damon's birthday.
Helped my mother pick out Damon's Birthday present.
Damon Koch:
Got a ton of followers on TikTok promoting his upcoming novel.
Proud of him for getting on the new team at work
I love how he drives so safelty.
Day 20:
Calvin Koch:
Instantly came in the house to make sure my mom was safe.
Fixed the toilet like a boss.
Is always so kind and generous. Something I really admire and love about him.
Damon Koch:
Talked to me calmly about our relationship issues from the past.
Admitted that he was not Emotionally Intelligent enough when we first got together.
Did not cut me off while I was talking during Dom talk.
Day 21:
Calvin Koch:
Is a hard worker and never complains.
always count on him to be honest and loyal in your relationship.
He is invested in creating a loving, supportive environment for our House.
Damon Koch:
Saved a Bunny from our Dog. (Poor Bunny)
Did some house chores while Calvin and I were sleeping.
Did some great focus today on his hobbies.
Day 22:
Calvin Koch:
Sees the relationship as a partnership and works together with us to overcome challenges.
Shows kindness and empathy to everyone.
I love that he takes care of the animals so much since I havent been able to easily].
Damon Koch:
Always willing to try new things and explore life’s adventures with me.
Even though he doesn't like it. He always gives us the time and space we need.
Has always been a great father figure to our daughter.
Day 23:
Calvin Koch:
Takes the time to listen to our thoughts and feelings.
Always treats us with respect, valuing our opinions, feelings, and needs.
Always pulls me back with just three little words, "I Got You!"
Damon Koch:
Always does small acts of kindness that brighten your day, whether it is making your favorite meal or leaving sweet notes.
He is always there for us during both the good and tough times.
Chases away all of my spooky monsters.
Day 24:
Calvin Koch:
Is always helpful and I appreciate his willingness to be that way.
Is adorable when he sleeps.
I love how he says the cats arent his, but the moment he gets near the cats he scoops up the one that loves him the most and snuggles him
Damon Koch:
Doesn't care about watching cartoons with me. Which I love because he is so silly.
Proud of him for not getting onto Amazon to shop since I ordered his bday present and asked him NOT to get on that website until Tuesday. He Agreed. Thank you, my Master
Goes out of his way to make sure I eat something.
Day 25:
Calvin Koch:
The guidance he gave me today. Even if it was for Pokemon Go.
The little messages I get in songs, little videos, notes, etc. That he sends to remind me that he loves me so much.
His calmness keeps me grounded.
Damon Koch:
His Perseverance is so alluring to me
Shows me in ways that I cannot even realize. When I never think I matter, seeing that he has done research without my knowledge reminds me that he cares.
His resilience to push through when he is emotionally exhausted. Gives me hope that I can do things as a blind disabled person if I just push through. He is my inspiration.
Day 26:
Calvin Koch:
I am grateful that he is such a family man.
I absolutely love and appreciate his genuine laugh
His desire to learn is inspiring to me.
Damon Koch:
Even though his genre of books is not my favorite. I still love and appreciate him rushing home to tell me all about them.
Love that he is finding creative ways to expand his vocabulary and reading comprehension.
Grateful that he is man enough to show his emotions and he came to me to lean on for support with his stress.
Day 27:
Calvin Koch:
I appreciate that he has no issue about getting my feminine products.
So appreciative that he attempted to make me a smoothie for the first time.
His love for Damon makes my heart skip a beat.
Damon Koch:
I appreciate that he holds himself and others accountable, and more so that he does it in the moment.
I appreciate him doing his best to grow as a human. I may not see him always doing the things but I recognize and see his growth.
I appreciate his fun loving spirit, and the fact he enjoys being silly and making me laugh randomly.
Day 28:
Calvin Koch:
How amazing he is at video games. Even the ones he has never played before, he can get into it and he just owns the game like it is his bitch.
His logical way of thinking.
His self control as he knows what he is capable of.
Damon Koch:
How amazing he is at art. The fact he can look at something and draw it right then and there and it comes out a million times better.
How protective he is of people.
I love and appreciate the way he lights up when I am in lit]tle space.
Day 29:
Calvin Koch:
Doesnt flip out when I go quiet and I just exist.
I love how protective he is.
Peacefully talked to me about how they were healing.
Damon Koch:
Thinks he is adorable for not being the Cockatoo, when he is. Inside joke
I love the way he feeds the kitties. Its so sweet and endearing.
His support of me Emotionally.
Day 30:
Calvin Koch:
The fact we share the same values.
My Mr Fix It.
His vast knowledge of strange facts that no one cares about, but makes me love him.
Damon Koch:
I love that we have been able to grow together in our relationship. That Damon still is growing and evolving into an even greater person then he was the day before.
He has always just accepted me for who I am, no matter my flaws.
The way he guides as a Master. He is so intelligent and patient. When I look back nine years ago from where we started to where we are today. All I can say is seeing how he has grown as a man, as my partner, and as my Master. I am just so proud of him, and where has has lead me over these years. It has been a journey, up and down but we are dedicated to each other and I am so grateful he has never given up on me, himself, or us.
Over the past month, as I’ve taken the time each day to reflect on the things I appreciate about my Masters, I’ve experienced a profound shift in my perspective. This practice has allowed me to see them not just as my Masters, but as beautiful, complex people, each with their own unique qualities that deserve recognition and gratitude. In the past, I have often found myself focused on the things I find challenging, the moments of tension, or the imperfections I perceive. But through this exercise, I have come to realize just how much goodness there is within them, and how much I have been blind to it because of my tendency to focus on the negative.
It hss been humbling to truly acknowledge the depth of their kindness, wisdom, and care. I see more clearly now that they are not just the authority figures I often view them as, but individuals who are worthy of my respect, love, and admiration. I am still growing, and this process has shown me where I need to work on shifting my mindset and developing a more compassionate and positive outlook, not only toward them but also toward myself.
I love my Masters with every part of who I am. My heart, my body, my mind, and my soul. I may not always express this love as fully as I should, but I am deeply grateful for the chance to recognize and reflect on their goodness. I never want to take them for granted or let the small things overshadow the immense value they bring into my life. I’m truly happy to see them in a more positive light and to grow alongside them, always striving to be better and to appreciate them more fully.