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1 month ago. March 22, 2025 at 10:30 PM

“Love is scary. Love is risky. Love is unsafe. Love isn’t for the faint of heart. Love takes courage. Love and fear can’t coexist. Love means giving people permission to break your heart over and over and over.” Dr. Lissa Rankin

 


The quote by Dr. Lissa Rankin resonates deeply with my personal understanding of some Master/slave dynamics within BDSM. At first glance, it might seem like an unorthodox comparison. After all, the perceived connotations of BDSM often revolve around control and power exchange. However, love and trust play foundational roles that make this dynamic not just a lifestyle but a profoundly emotional experience.

 

Love particularly in the context of BDSM is indeed scary. It requires a level of vulnerability that many shy away from. In the Master/slave relationship, the slave gives up a significant degree of autonomy, entrusting their well being and desires to their Master. This relinquishing of control necessitates not only a trusting bond but also an immense amount of courage. As I reflect on my experiences. The intimacy that develops when you willingly give your heart and trust to someone else in this way can be both exhilarating and terrifying.

 

Dr. Rankin's assertion that “love takes courage” couldn't be more valid in this world. Engaging in a Master/slave relationship meant stepping out of my comfort zone and embracing a different concept of love. One that is grounded in mutual respect, understanding, and consent. The balance of power can shift easily within these dynamics, making the relationship dance a complex one. I learned that vulnerability is not just about physical submission but emotional honesty, revealing the parts of ourselves that we might otherwise hide away.

 

The notion that “love and fear can’t coexist” is particularly relevant. In my experience, fear often breeds from uncertainty or a lack of communication. Both of which can jeopardize the trust that is essential in a Master/slave dynamic. I remember a time when I hesitated to voice my concerns regarding a scene we were exploring. The fear of disappointing my Masters clouded my judgment. In retrospect, it was that very fear that threatened the safety and trust between us. A realization dawned on me. True love thrives on open dialogue and consent, creating an environment where both parties feel secure enough to express their insecurities or desires.

 

Dr. Rankin's thought that love means granting permission for others to break your heart speaks volumes. Particularly in Master/slave dynamics, the emotional stakes are incredibly high. This kind of love recognizes the risks involved. One must understand that the power dynamics can evoke profound emotional reactions. Navigating these feelings often feels like walking a tightrope. Balancing affection with the possibility of heartbreak.

 

However, it is in this dance of balance that genuine connection forms. The realization that loving someone deeply, even in a power exchange, means accepting the risk of heartbreak has been an eye opener. It has taught me that love can be both a sanctuary and a battleground. A space where we can explore our deepest selves if we dare to step into it with courage.

 

The Master/slave dynamic epitomizes the complexities of love. It intertwines trust, courage, vulnerability, and the ever present risk of emotional turmoil. Embracing these elements makes the relationships formed within this framework not just a pursuit of pleasure, but an exploration of what it truly means to love and be loved in a world that often feels unsafe.


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