I’m tired.
I’m angry.
And I’m done watching the very communities that claim to honor consent, discipline, tradition, and truth continue to fall apart under the weight of their own cowardice and corruption.
The Gorean community, the Leather community, and the wider BDSM and kink world all of them have been exposed, time and time again, for doing the unthinkable:
Concealing abuse.
Protecting predators.
Turning a blind eye to consent violations.
Siding with those who spew racism, hatred, or manipulation.
And worst of al, silencing survivors and gaslighting the ones brave enough to speak.
You know it. I know it. And I’m not afraid to say it anymore.
I am someone who has been harmed in this community, deeply, painfully, and in ways that changed my life. And rather than walking away completely, I made a vow.
To become the voice I once needed.To fight for those still afraid.
To hold up a mirror to the people and places that have chosen power over principle.
Let me be clear:
If you are not here to live by Character, Honor, Integrity, Merit, and Trust, then you have no business being in this community.
If you are not committed to exploring kink and power exchange safely, or protecting the people in it with integrity, then you are a danger to what we are supposed to stand for.
I don’t care how charming you are.
I don’t care how long you’ve been around.
I don’t care what titles you hold, how many people kiss your boots, or what kind of “legend” you think you are.
If you are outed as an abuser, a manipulator, or a protector of predators, your voice will be the one I call out.
You will be held accountable.
Because your presence is not more important than someone else’s safety.
This is not about drama.
This is about decency.
This is about survival.
This is about a community that can no longer afford to trade silence for social capital.
I have nothing to gain from this.
I don’t care about your popularity, your scene clout, or your fragile reputation.
If you’re a horrible person at your core, no title, patch, or popularity vote will shield you from the truth.
I vow to make this community safer.
I vow to stand up for those who don’t yet have a voice of their own.
And I vow to challenge the people who need to be smacked down a peg and reminded that accountability is not abuse, it is justice.
If this offends you?
Maybe it is time to reflect on why.
I will not sit back and let our world burn because people are too scared to call out evil when they see it.
This isn’t just about kink.
This is about ethics, safety, and truth.
So pick a side.
Because silence is no longer neutral.
In truth, with fire, and without apology
Ava, First Girl, of the House of Koch
