There is something sacred in service, something quiet and strong, especially when it is given freely, with the heart of a kajira. I live and serve as a Gorean kajira within a Leather House. My days are guided by structure, purpose, and a deeply rooted sense of devotion. My collar does not silence me, it grounds me in truth. And truth, for me, is not optional.
Our House holds values that are not just words but principles I live by, Character, Honor, Honesty, Integrity, Respect, Merit, Trust, and Transparency. These are not traits we talk about to look good. They are how we live, how we serve, and how we relate to others in our community.
Which is why I feel so
“It’s not tolerating abuse to get both sides of a story before you make judgments. What is abusive is sending the online equivalent of a mob to my house because I gave evidence that didn’t support your narrative.” - (I forgot who wrote this but if you know who please let me know so credit can be given.)
In this lifestyle, where so much of what we do exists outside of the mainstream, we must hold ourselves to a higher standard, not just in our personal dynamics, but in how we engage with our community. That includes how we respond to conflict, claims, and crisis. We talk so much about consent, honor, and ethics, yet sometimes we forget that those values should extend to how we treat one another when there is disagreement or difficult truth.
I am a kajira. My obedience is real. My submission is intentional. But I do not, and will not, surrender my principles for the sake of groupthink or gossip. I refuse to form opinions based on one sided narratives or unverified rumors. I will always seek both sides of the story. That is how truth is found. That is how justice is served.
We do not get to talk about community safety while destroying those who ask for facts.
I know that truth is not always convenient. It is not always what we want it to be. But that does not make it less true. And it does not mean we are right to ignore it just because it makes us uncomfortable. When I came forward with evidence that didn’t match the popular version of a story, I wasn’t trying to hurt anyone. I was living the values of my House. I was upholding honesty and integrity. I was being transparent. And for that, I was attacked. Not with reasoned disagreement, but with emotional backlash, personal insults, and attempts to isolate or intimidate me.
But I will not be moved from what I know is right. I will continue to write and speak from a place of education, knowledge, and evidence. I will not twist facts to fit someone else’s narrative. I will not hide behind falsities or half truths because it is the easy path. Even if it means I stand alone, I will stand on the side of truth.
Because that is what it means to have character.
That is what it means to serve with honor.
That is what it means to be part of something greater than myself, a House, a structure, a tradition where values are not just spoken but lived, every day.
To those who feel threatened by truth: I understand fear. But fear should not drive out integrity. And to those who stand for values, even quietly, even when it is hard, I see you. You are not truly alone.
As a kajira, I serve with obedience, but I also serve with awareness. I serve with honor, speak with honesty, and live by the integrity of my House. My submission includes a responsibility to think critically, and to act with discernment, even when it is uncomfortable. Especially then.
This is the path I choose. And I will walk it with grace, courage, and unwavering devotion to truth. You don’t have to agree with me. But you will not shame me for choosing truth over convenience.
Because that choice? That’s the very heart of who I am.