When you are vetting or negotiating a contract, whether written or verbal, there is no room for “gotcha” moments. It is not funny, not clever, and certainly not a harmless joke to slip in changes at the last minute to see if the other person catches them.
If you make any changes to a contract right before signing, and you do not clearly communicate those changes, sit down to discuss them, and get explicit agreement from the other person, you have taken away their ability to give informed consent. That is not just careless, it is predatory.
This is not “testing” someone’s attention to detail. This is a massive consent violation and a glaring red flag that you are not a safe person to be around, play with, or enter into any form of power exchange with. The very fact that you treat consent as something to be toyed with shows a complete lack of respect for the foundation our community is built on.
I say this as a submissive who trusts my Dominants and play partners with deep vulnerability:, consent is sacred. It is the bedrock of everything we do. If you think consent is a joke, you have no business in this community. You deserve the mark of shame and, frankly, excommunication from any space that values safety and integrity.
And before anyone tries to play the “but CNC exists!” card, yes, I know it does. I understand CNC, and I respect the people who engage in it with care and clarity. But here’s the thing about CNC: you negotiate it first. You agree on parameters. You set boundaries. You define the edges of the scene. Then, and only then, do you consent to the consensual non consent you’ve discussed.
You don’t get to change the actual rules at the last second “for fun” or “as a test.” That’s not CNC. That’s a betrayal. If you are truly committed to SSC, RACK, PRICK dynamics, then you understand that contracts, negotiations, and agreements are not playgrounds for your ego. They are acts of trust. And trust, once broken, is very, very hard to rebuild, if at all.
Consent is not a joke. It is the air we breathe in this lifestyle. Treat it as anything less, and you should not be here.