I am not going to lie when I say I think I have found a small kink community family today. Something I did not think was possible anymore.
I attending a Kinky and Disabled Inclusivity discussion zoom class today.
Let me just say that the kink community is vast but as I was sitting here listening to what people have endured and sharing my own experiences I have realized that my local community is not very disability friendly.
The local dungeon that we have in our area, is not wheel chair friendly. They arent deaf friendly and they certainly arent blind friendly. The room is always super dark, and being blind I cannot see at all in the day time so being in a room that is very dimly lit is basically no visibility for me.
I have gone there before I was blind so I know they mark the play spaces with tape but the tape doesnt have blind textures to indicate they are there. They arent reflective or neon colored to indicate where they are so navigating the place spaces safely is impossible for me.
The seating is minimal at best and if you dont get there early and set up before others you wont have a seat to sit on. Granted there is plenty of floor space to sit but for people like me with massive nerve damage in their leeg from a knee injury and a broken back injury sitting on a hard floor for a long period of time is impossible.
However this group gave me some inspiration for some great ideas to shoot over to the owner of the establishment and just offer my advice/suggestions. Lets face it I havent been back there due to the safety issues on top of lack of inclusion since I have become blind.
A lot of the people in the conversation are people who are just like me. Struggling with their disabilities, and navigating kink as best as they can. It was doms and submissives alike in this discussion. Wide ranges of disabilities around the globe and each person shared their experience and advice and suggestions on how to make kink even better.
I have never met an entire group of people that have instantly made me feel comfortable and at peace than I have today. They host discussions and classes every two weeks and I truly believe I will be attending all of them from here on out. It has motivated me to reach out to people. To step up even with my current disabilities and help our community. Possibly even volunteer now at events to assist with my doms of course other people with disabilities.
As an artist I can find other ways to spread awareness as well.
For the first time in a very very long time I feel whole again. I feel connected to other people and the feeling is intense and energizing. I am not ashamed for being disabled. I have been grieving for so many years since I became blind, feeling trapped in my body, in my mind. Not knowing what to do, where to go, who I can talk to or even where to go to find people like me in the kinky world.
For a day like today that was going to be super sad for me since one of my Dominants has to go out of town for ten days and I am struggling with being away from them. This discussion class has made the day so much better. I see many friends in my future and a family being formed with these people already.
Finding people who can relate and understand what I am going through is a need of mine. Finding friends is a massive need of mine and feeling as though I have found that has calmed the anxiety down alot.
I am excited, and hopeful for the future. Something I havent felt in a very long time.
If anyone else out there is disabled or in a relationship/dynamic with someone who is and you are terrified to attend a class or discussion group. By all means please reach out to my DMs. They are always open.
