“Trust is like a mirror, you can fix it if its broken, but you'll still see the crack in that m***********’s reflection.” I've always believed this quote, as I've never fully believed that once trust is broken that it can be fully fixed. There will always be a crack in that mirror.
Let's get real for a moment, I've always had trust issue, it stems from the fact that in my younger years I constantly was betrayed, bullied and just let down by those who were supposed to care and love me. Constantly feeling like a spare part does a number on your mental health by that's besides the point. Today I want to talk about trust, and how whilst it can be hard to trust how important it is to trust your Dom/me.
Trust is hard and can be scary, like it's scary to trust someone new in your life, especially if you've been let down before constantly. Like I think before I met my Domme I think I trusted 3 people, two best friends and myself. Now that's become 4 with my Domme be on that list. Which I didn't think would have happened so fast, with it only being a month since we've met.
Trusting her was a process, I went from being skittish and distrustful to being unafraid to voice my opinion and thoughts. She was different she was honest and never tried to lie or rose tint anything. It was refreshing, and it made me feel like I was important enough to be honest with. It felt refreshing and made me feel like I was worthy of the truth. Being the youngest in my family meant I was constantly given half truths to “protect me” but all that did was given me ✨trust issues✨.
But trust in any relationship is important, let alone in a dynamic where things can go from good to bad in a minute. Trusting your Dom/me ensures that you're safe and having a good time, trusting that they wouldn't hurt you intentionally (unless that's what your into). Trust is an important pillar in the BDSM community, if you can't trust someone how can you be intimate with them? If you can't trust someone how can you be in a vulnerable state around them?
I guess what I'm trying to say is if you can't trust your Dom/me how are you sure they're gonna do right by you and ensure your safety both physically and mentally? I trust my Domme implicitly, I know she cares about me and that I can trust her not to hurt me mentally, I know that with her I'm safe and I can be either the little or confident women I want to be.
I still haven't figured out how I should end this, but I guess, just remember no matter what or who you talking to, if you can't build up trust with them, maybe don't play with them?