When did you know that you were a sub? I get this question all of the time. I believe there is an unwritten rule somewhere, that demands that every submissive be asked this question, by every Dominant that ever was.
My answer is….I have always known that I am a submissive Almost all submissives would answer the same way. But no one ever asks me WHERE my submission comes from. That might shed more light about who I am as a submissive than any other question.
I didn’t know the answer myself until my first punishment many years ago. I wouldn’t tell you my crime, even if I could remember, so don’t ask. My Dominant knew exactly how to punish an emotionally stunted masochist and gave me the task of writing an essay on why I was a submissive. Let me tell you, it was torture. He made me rewrite it several times, until I finally really dug deep and did the assignment.
I believe my submission comes from a combination of breeding and beatings. It is my nature to give affection and love. My passion is watching my children, my patients, and my garden thrive under my care. I also learned at a very young age what the back of a hand felt like if I didn’t move fast enough. I became an expert at pleasing and accommodating to keep from being noticed. No attention was good attention.
Many of us are born with this overwhelming need to please. As many are forced, at a young age, to take control of all situations in their lives. Each one of us has a unique story to tell and would gladly tell it, if only asked. And maybe we could get an addendum to that old rule while we are at it.
