My Submissive Heart and Soul

Today .. my thoughts are all over the map.  

There is sadness, despair, anger, love, hope, gratitude, determination. 

Life is short. Like many, I've experienced loss in my life. Loss of family, dear friends taken much too early, fear of losing those I love too soon.

I've had to watch them fight and lose that fight and have to say goodbye. And now suddenly again, I have to say goodbye soon to yet another dear friend who holds a special place in my heart.

Today ... this blog is about how we can be living our lives. My wish for everyone ... but especially for those I hold dear.

For years I spent my life just going through the motions. Not really living, just merely being, never feeling completely fulfilled, feeling empty, like a part of me was missing.

Since taking the steps to live this lifestyle and truly embrace who I am, I will and would never go back to that way of life. I have never felt so alive, more loved, more whole, more accepted, more fulfilled in my life than I do now. It is the most amazing feeling. 

It is because of those things ... because we know things can change in a minute, as I get older, I have come to know how life works. 

Life is fleeting and it is precious. 

I believe with all my heart, when you find happiness, when you find someone who fills your heart, gives you hope for the future, and faith in yourself, you have to grab hold and hold on to them. If they are the one for you and you for them, then muster all the strength and courage you have inside to fight for them, fight for YOU!. Do what you need to work towards a future with them. You ARE worth the effort. Don't waste another minute. You owe it to yourself to be true to yourself. You owe it to yourself to live a full, rich and loving life. 

This song is playing over and over in my head today ... these words are so very true and says it all for me ... 

Maybe it's time you bet on yourself
Listen to your heart
Just listen to your heart and nobody else
So go find out who you are
Only you know who you are
Who are you?
'Cause all you have to lose
Is your best life yet
So go ahead

If you have a dream, go chase it
If you feel hope, don't waste it
If you find love, embrace it
And never take a single breath for granted
The story's yours, go write it
Tomorrow's undecided
Our days are counted on this planet
Never take a single breath
Take a single breath for granted.

Have you ever felt it could all go away
If you blink
If you never stop running you won't fall behind
So you think
And you wonder in your heart
If you're still not who you are
Who are you?
Nothing's as it seems till it all falls apart

If you have a dream, go chase it
If you feel hope, don't waste it
If you find love, embrace it
And never take a single breath for granted
The story's yours, go write it
Tomorrow's undecided
Our days are counted on this planet
Never take a single breath
Take a single breath for granted

Maybe it's time you bet on yourself
Listen to your heart
Just listen to your heart and nobody else
So go find out who you are
Only you know who you are
Who are you?
'Cause all you have to lose
Is your best life yet
So go ahead

If you have a dream, go chase it
If you feel hope, don't waste it
If you find love, embrace it
And never take a single breath for granted
The story's yours, go write it
Tomorrow's undecided
Our days are counted on this planet
Never take a single breath
Take a single breath for granted

Sometimes the greatest moment we'll ever know
Are when we're letting go, so let go
And maybe our brightest days still wait for us
In the unknown

If you have a dream, go chase it
If you feel hope, don't waste it
If you find love, embrace it
And never take a single breath for granted
If you have a light, go find it
The story's yours, go write it
Our days are counted on this planet
So never take a single breath
Take a single breath for granted

❤❤❤

WE NEED YOU!!!

(Previous post edited and re-posted)

Lately, I have read so many blogs by subs who have been dupped, treated badly and down right cruelly. And the most commonality of it all?? Honesty!!!

Like .. come on you so-called men. It's not that hard!! Grow a spine!! Just be honest ... about who you are, whether you have or want more than one sub, what you're looking for, etc.

Let's take being a Dom out of the equation for a moment. Because in my opinion, you cannot be a true and good Dom, if you are not a good MAN first.

I have watched friends here, myself included, be blatantly lied to, fed half-truths, or completely mislead, tricked and treated cruelly. Even after taking due diligence and thinking they were safe and cautious.

A REAL man treats a woman, first and foremost, with respect. Every person deserves to be respected, man or woman.

A real man has integrity. That means, being strong enough in character to be HONEST. Honest about himself, honest about his situation ... just honest.

I consider myself a feminist, to a degree. I believe in equal rights, the right to choose our own lives and paths .. you get the gist of it (I hope). A real man gives a woman the chance to choose for herself, knowing ALL the facts before entering into a relationship with him. As well, as when things evolve in the relationship. Be man enough to just be honest, not ghosting her, playing cruel tricks, lying that she's the only one, leaving her confused and hurt.

Be one who is brave enough to tell the truth, face the realities. He does not take that choice away from her. Forcing her, unwittingly to make a choice based on a lie. A REAL man owns up to who he is and his mistakes.

Lying is a CHOICE. It is NOT an accident. It is deliberate. IT IS THE ACT OF A COWARD.

Sadly, some here are only masters of one thing ... deceit and cruelty. Over-inflated egos. You are not worth the time of day.

There are many better men out there that will happily step up and show her how a real man treats her and enjoy her and you won't even be a spot of dust in their light.

To the men here who are deceivers ... I would normally get angry here ... but to be perfectly honest ... you are pure and simply PATHETIC ... spineless, cowards and weak. Not even CLOSE to the measure of a real man. And most definitely not a good and true Dom.

A real man and good Dom, treats with respect, caring, love, kindness and honesty, even with the knowledge she may walk away. But at least you can both have your dignity intact and it is based on truth.

A real man makes the choice to do the right thing, not play games. These are REAL lives, REAL people, REAL emotions, REAL pain.

When you have these qualities and live by them each and every day, THEN you can consider yourself to be ready to be a good and true Dom.

Unfortunately, those who need to read this won't. Sadly, they will just move on to their next victim. You know who you are!! And if you don't, well...if you are doing any of the above to a person ... hopefully you'll feel some guilt and step up and just do the right thing.

To THE GOOD MEN AND DOMS HERE ... keep being who you are. We women, we subs ... NEED you!

There are some here who have been so deeply hurt, they NEED to know there are good men and Doms out there.

And when you know of a wrong doing, reach out and let them know ... it's not cool. Be a mentor...even to subs so they know what to look for in a Dom.

Yes, I am angry.

Angry that my precious friends are in pain and I can only console and help hold them up until they gain their strength and confidence again.

To those who cause such pain, I'll leave you to your imagination as to how I'd like to use my sword on you.

Better yet, BE A MAN!!!
A REAL man!

And to all to good and true Doms/Men here ... THANK YOU! We need more of you here! Be a role model to show what a true and good man is. Be a mentor to show what a true and good Dom is.

Knowing who you are starts with knowing where you came from and how you got here.

Inner peace comes through learning to accept who you are.  All the facets of you.  When you embrace all of what makes you .. well .. you, it is the most liberating experience. 

I spent years trying to hide who I was. Deny who I was. Afraid of what others would think of me. Afraid of what I thought about myself. 

But I'm no longer afraid.

I know what I am and it is wonderful. I chuckle when I post memes of how kinky I am or how naughty I can be ... because I always think "oohhh .. if they only knew" 🤭 

My Daddy knows ... and He loves ALL of me. He enjoys every part of who I am and I give Him my all. I've never felt more alive, more fulfilled in my life than I do now.

When we talk about our future together, we talk in the whole.  We talk about what we want in our home, we talk of what things our dungeon will have in it, and other things we will enjoy together.  He gets ALL of me, because I know I can trust Him with all of me. I am excited to start our life together. 

I have a couple of very special friends who I am able to share all of me with. They accept me and enjoy all of what makes me ... me, as I do them. I am grateful for them every day. I surround myself with those who truly appreciate and accept me unconditionally.

Who am I??

I am strong. I am intelligent. I am beautiful. I am funny. I am sexy. I am kinky as all hell. 😏😏

If i think about it, it actually kind of makes me sad for the ones who got a small glimpse of what they could have had before throwing it away.  

To them, I say ... eat your hearts out!!

You'll never have any idea what you missed out on!! Haha!!  Daddy knows ... and Daddy enjoys ALL of me!! 😈😈😈

Who am I?? 

I am submissive 🥰

I am badass 😈 ... and my superpower???

Staying true to myself.

😏😏😏

... she believed in herself, her calling, her journey ... selflessly giving her time and energy to those around her, helping them to thrive ... careful to camouflage her desire for more, patiently waiting for the right time to spread her wings and fly...

... her time has come ...

❤❤❤

It is quite simple really, a good Dominant is someone who possesses the very qualities we would ascribe to a “good person”: kindness, consideration, politeness, empathy, compassion.

A good Dom has a strong sense of ethics, honesty and is respectful of others regardless of their position in life. A person who masquerades behind these qualities, usually is discovered at some point as the fraud they are, hopefully with the least amount of devastation left in their wake.

To be a good Dominant takes more than a crop, a stern look or demands.

The basic foundation is Trust.

Without trust, there is nothing of substance. No substance to the dynamic nor the person.

It is these qualities, more than anything else, that define a person’s character and personality. They are the essential skills that determine how good a person is liable to be in any part of their life, be it their career, their home life – or being Dominant.

While some components of domination is very much a skill, true Dominants tend to show a willingness to learn, to grow and to understand. They are on a journey as much as any submissive.

A good Dom takes the time and effort to learn and grow as a person, which in turn, naturally flows into their dominance.

If one wants to gain the respect of peers and the acceptance of submissives, then one should take the time to look within themselves. Be honest with themselves and others.

I have met both, good and true Doms, and sadly, some frauds. It is the true and good Doms that have had the most significant influence in my thoughts. Their genuineness and truth shines through above all others.

Although I have been fooled once or twice (mainly because I always assume people are acting with integrity) the thing I've learned most from these ones, is they are not worth any of my time or effort. 

My Daddy is one of the most genuine, honest and trustworthy people I know, both in our D/s life and in our life as a couple.

He faced a tribunal of the closest people in my life, who pay attention to EVERYTHING! His true self, His sincerity and light has shone through, and continues to every day with them. 

Every day He tells me, and more importantly, SHOWS me in his actions. His actions are what help me escape the bricks I laid to build my fortress.

Our honesty and integrity are the bricks of our foundation. This, is how he shows me how much he loves, cherishes and respects me. He respects me enough to be completely honest with every facet of Him, even when it's difficult. 

He does this, so I can feel safe and secure in Him, in US, to show Him how much I love Him and be completely open with Him. He sees all of me. There is nothing I hold back because I know I can trust being completely vulnerable with Him without harm to my heart.

That's what a good and true Dominant is. He IS His submissive's safest place.

❤❤❤

Ohhhh  ... most definitely!! Daddy knows!!  😈🤭

... but that's why He loves me  😏😏

How He makes me feel ... 

This is not my writing but it surely struck a chord deep in me ... 

The little girl inside her, should be kept alive, because she is the real her, she is her essence.

The other, the grown up woman, is just a necessity, she is a facade. The young lady can’t be her all the time, she needs to come out to play, but first she needs a playground.

And it’s the Dominant who should provide for that.

Always let her be who she chooses to show you, whether the little girl or the woman.

She is forever safe in your hands as her loving Master.

Every day Daddy 

❤❤❤