I've known I was different since my teens ... And, thanks to Lord Colm and Jade, I've known since age 20 or so what that difference was. I found a home on the fringes of Gor. And, slowly continued my life-long path of refining me. BUT ... through the past 45+ years, the single most important aspect of Every relationship I've participated in has been communication. We all know that we are all different and have different needs and different ways of learning and processing information. I am very glad for all those differences as I couldn't stand the boredom of everyone being identical. Therefore, I gladly accept the challenge of blending two or more lives together. I'm 65 and Still trying to get it right .... to learn ... to improve myself and how I do me. Nobody is perfect, or without fault ... and in case you're wondering what the purpose of life is, it's to help each other live the best life we can.
Ok, now that the soap box is out of the way, let's talk about Communication. Relationships are a process, success or failure depends mainly on communication ... although I must give a nod and a middle finger to Covid. Some things are just beyond our control. Learn from it and move on. As a gorean and sadist, I am not in the habit of negotiating ... this making communication even more important. But, one can be Dominant and Sadist without being a Dick Head. Be patient and take the time to know each other well enough to fully communicate your needs and desires. I've found that the masochists I've known all had different needs ... each was a unique flavor of masochism. Learning an individual's uniqueness takes months ... even years ... Rushing into things is dangerous and risky. And, doomed to failure. It takes time to learn how each other communicate ... how we interpret information and process it. If I hadn't had that damned TBI, I'd still be able to lay things out in a nice Power Point doc and present a nice neat "how to" paper for your consideration. All I can do now is encourage others to take this ball and run with it ... Help each other learn to communicate better. Be patient. Don't be afraid to fail. And, for Pete's sake ... Ask Questions ... To each other ... To yourself ... But, not me ... J/k ... 🤠
