12:45
Ive been trying to work on my communication skills lately.
If you have a problem with that, go fu . . .
Oh, right. . . .
I analyze everything - im not exactly sure why . . . ill give it some thought and let you know . . .
I am a Cancer star sign.
Life experiences, etc.
All of these effect how I communicate.
I was having a conversation recently with a dear friend. They gave me an example -
If they were to ask a certain loved one "what time is it?" The response would be a break down of how a watch works.
In my reiteration /acknowledgment of understanding this, I gave my own example of what "I" do ~
Someone asks me for a dollar, I will say "sure, here . . . maybe 2? . . No here, take 5 . . . "
The person is asking for a dollar.
The way my brain and emotions work, I want to fulfil their request to the best of my ability.
But . . . The person asked for a dollar.
(Poor example because, well . . . .money - but you get my point)
Its easy to see where the best of intentions could lead to a frustrated break down.
Disclaimer -
I am no expert - just my experience and what I have learned - because learning is important . . .and many books can be found at the library . . . libraries are great buildings - the 1st one was constructed in the 7th century in . . .
Oh, right . . .
I have said "we are what comes out of our mouths." (Or fingers in this case - our words)
The picture we paint to the outside world of who we are. ("Actions" . .. I know, I know. . . . .shut u. . . . . . . oh, right. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . I kinda like talking inside parentheses. . . Its like side words . . . I can say anything I want in here. . . .ha ha hahaha . . . Yes! That dress DOES makes you look fat! . . . . Ok ok . . . Here it comes . . Sshhh ?. . . . . . . . . . . . .)
I remember when I was young seeing sign language for the 1st time. It was like living art.
When someone is speaking to us, we tend to be half listening, and half formulating a response. The result can often turn into a battle of feelings.
It seems to be . . . .
Listen -
acknowledge -
reiterate what they said -
confirm, "yes, that is what im saying, thank you" -
ok, your turn . . .
I also believe it is vitally important to understand the person themselves - ie, the source. For example, as stated above - I am a cancer/male/INFJ, etc. I will "naturally " express myself a certain way.
Also, where this conversation /emotion is coming from - hurt, envy, anger, worry, etc.
Good communication takes a conscience effort.
Just my um . . . . Ya know . . . Thoughts for . . . .. ah . . . . What!? Dont judge me!
"Honey . . . .you have a nail in your forehead"