I truly believe in the theory that everyone should have their own way to live and love. My hope is that in the confines of our BDSM lifestyle we can truly be who and what we want to be..... BUT.... there are caveats to this and I feel the need to elaborate.
If you are pontificating on things to hear yourself speak and have no real knowledge, perhaps it's better to keep those thoughts to yourself. There are people that reach out for genuine advice or help. Snark and pith have no place in the path of one who seeks knowledge. For me the golden rule in these cases should be the old adage "Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak and to remove all doubt.' There are no bad questions in this lifestyle, and seekers must be permitted to seek. The best source of knowledge is those with experience and we must allow those people to shine and share, so that people are educated and not left to twist in the wind and potentially get hurt or hurt others.
There is no room for any kind of intolerance for whom someone is, who one chooses to love and what someone enjoys. This entire lifestyle is based off of inclusion. If I see you being phobic or racist of any kind, I will not hesitate to call you out, and there are many others that will do the same and if it becomes ugly, we will allow the site admins to sort it out. Kink shaming is also abhorrent. I may not understand why you get turned on by what you are turned on by, but it's none of my business so roll with it baby. Enjoy the hell out of whatever flips your switch, because you can be sure that I am. Of course that also means staying in the realm of consent of all players. Just because you think that someone consents, this does not mean that they do, and no amount of "I thought it was ok" or "we always do this thing" will help you if you are on the wrong side of a consent violation.
You do you, but play safe, smart and with respect and don't be a dick.
Edited to add....
When someone deletes your comment because it hits too close to home.... WIN!
I stand by my deleted comment on anothers blog. Which was .....I'm going to be very straight with you, as I don't think anyone has been. You come across VERY predatory. Offering a room in exchange for sexual favors is gross and basically prostitution. I fear for the woman who has agreed to move in with you as you are already talking about a potential relationship with her. "Unless we ended up falling for each other" And while that is a possibility, it's more likely that she's looking for a place to live and your advances are going to come across too forward. People seem amused by your tales and antics, but it's not funny or appropriate and you are going to find yourself on the wrong side of a consent law if you keep it up.
