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4 years ago. June 27, 2020 at 2:45 PM

Y’all really gotta find something better to do than point fingers and vilify innocent folks. I woke this morning from blissful slumber to find an off-site message from someone telling me that Laura and I were having a war waged on us by another Cage member. 

Let me make something crystal freaking clear..... 

 

Just over a week ago we trekked 1200+ miles across the country together to bring me home to CO to start my forever with her.  We’ve spent the time since adjusting to sharing our time & space. Nesting. Working to consolidate our lives. I am incommunicado (to even my closest real life friends at home who are messaging for updates) about 95% of the time. Not to be rude to anyone, but because I am in constant wonderment of this beautiful boi that belongs to me and the life we are sharing. Over the last several months I have been doing a “Cage cleanse” as it were becoming less dependent on coming here and doubly so on the chat room that I used to frequent. I still love it and many of my friends, but frankly I found my dream girl, what more do I need?  So those that are Lobby regulars can confirm our scarcity. 

I really don’t have time or energy for the crap. The childish games. The head games that are probably being used on this person that seems to think that the happiest humans on the planet have the energy or inclination to dig into anyone’s life to spit vitriol. We are literally living  our best lives at the moment... so look elsewhere for your nefarious villains. You are barking up the wrong tree. Instead I’d look more closely at my closest confidants... the sage advice of... “keep your friends close and your enemies closer” probably comes into play here. Those that make an obvious public stand against you are less likely to be sneaky and deceitful.... it’s more likely someone who has used considerable effort to befriend and support you. But I digress....

To recap.... in the last month  I packed up my entire life and shoved it in a 6x8 pod that is currently taunting us to unload it  A week before I left GA my sweet 15 year old dog died in her sleep just over a week before she could have been in a home again.  I didn’t even have time to grieve her properly.  5 days ago I received a call that one of my very best friends died suddenly from an asthma attack at the age of 45.  Someone I adored and considered one of my closest confidants is gone and I didn’t even get to say goodbye.  I am living a life of extreme juxtaposition.  Deliriously happy & in love and at the same time shrouded in my own grief... but instead of working through this stuff I feel the need to come defend myself. 

I have publicly disagreed with people  I don’t use “reporting” to play games  Dearest Admins  feel free to chime in that I have reported one person, who was removed, that was speaking of pedo things. I have also asked for assistance for a young lady who claimed her ex was threatening to dox her and had sensitive photos, chats, etc ... she posted this stuff in the chat room and I also told her I let the admins know and that they would reach out to her.  Laura has reported one person also who was removed from the site, due to racist and homophobic hate speech.  I have nothing to hide, if I don’t agree with you, I’ll debate publicly or privately in pm, but reporting is for dangerous behaviors that threaten the safety of our community and I only use it as such.

 

So now I’m going back to living and experiencing my real life.  Falsely vilify me and mine if it helps you get through the night... because I sleep soundly knowing that I have done nothing to warrant this BS.  


I’ve often said that I have 2 pieces of advice that solve pretty much all issues in life  so today I’ll leave you with one of them.... “Grow up”  

 

Sunshinegirl​(sub female) - What a waste of air that person is. I’m sorry people are so shitty
4 years ago
dollMaker​(dom male) - Sorry for the loss of your friend, and dog. Hugs. I wish you and Laura a wonderful life together.
4 years ago
SirsBabyDoll​(sub female){Pizza+☕}Verified member - I am so sorry for your recent losses and can understand your juxtaposition feeling. It must be difficult. ((Hugs)) to the both of you.
4 years ago
SSG{ENM-TLP} - Dj, I am so sorry for what you've experienced recently. I know on top of what is going on in this world and even in this country on top of it, the added emotional pressure is no doubt heavy. Don't sweat anyone who would say anything negative about you. I haven't read anything in blogs about this, and I don't participate in forums a lot to know if it is or not. Apparently, there are people who have this communication off-screen. You never have to defend yourself against anything. Be your wonderful self and live your convictions. If you feel someone is a threat, report them. That is our right as members here and our responsibility to keep this community a healthy place to be. Don't sweat this stuff. Live, laugh and love! I'm sure you and Laura have FAR better things to do ;) than to worry about people who just want to stir shit.
4 years ago
HisHunnyBun​(sub female){Taken} - 👏👏👏
Impressive blog Dj
SMH
at anyone who is ballsy enough to join the Cage and see that those type of remarks are forbidden yet they still do it anyway.
I despise those types.
4 years ago
Little momma​(sub female) - Djinni whomever the individual is he or she is just jealous of what you and Laura have. I had the opportunity to meet you in person and know that you are someone I'd like to have as a friend as friends like you are few. Don't listen to the jealous bully; they just want their 5 seconds in the spot light.
4 years ago
Lion​(dom male){Hazel Eyes} - My friend, so sorry for your losses. To you I say tell them to piss off, like you we are living the dream, so live a drama free life. Enjoy each other everyday, come back to say Hi once in awhile and live your life. Big Hug to you both, much love to you.
4 years ago

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