a place where everything is not okay

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Is it okay?

4 years ago. December 24, 2019 at 11:51 PM

Is it okay for my to have a link between real life situations and intimate punishment?

I said something stupid in front of our friends and I really embarrassed my girlfriend (we are both switches) and I apologised for that but she suggested that I should be punished for what I did, at first sight I thought she forgave me and wanted to get intimate

But turns out she was serious, she said that I should get consequences for my actions and she won't forgive me until I accept the punishment.

So I did accept to get punished and she caned me quite alot that day.

After a few days I told her I would do something and forgot and got punished again

And one time after that

I'm kind of okay with that but as I said we are switches and yesterday she said something hurtful to me and she apologised but I suggested that I should get to punish her too

She got angry at me and said that I just want to spank her for intimate reasons not as a real punishment

And I don't, I just think what goes on me should go on her

Am I wrong?

djinni(dom female){smplylaura} - Switching within a dynamic is difficult. Even if you are both switches.... I know it’s possible but I think you almost have to have prescribed days, times, etc in which to be bottom or top. Spontaneity is more difficult. If over the course of several days she was punishing you to flip her into bottom space like that would be difficult. She’s flying pretty high in Top space. Thus the attitude she gave you.

I only bottom to my Master (or men) and I only top women. And I don’t ever mix the two. I know for others it’s not gender based but energy based.

4 years ago

switch101(switch male) - If she wants to turn the relationship to a dom/sub one where she is the dominant she should just say so and I think I would be okay with it. But I'm just confused now and don't know what to respond if she ever suggested to punish me again

4 years ago

djinni(dom female){smplylaura} - Communication, my friend. Time for some long serous talks. It won’t work without it.

4 years ago

switch101(switch male) - Thanks for the advice

4 years ago

Alluracurious - That power struggle is difficult and confusing, but weather the punishment is sexual in nature it is still done with respect...

4 years ago

switch101(switch male) - She is coming over today to talk it over, I really don't know what to do, but I am thinking about agreeing on her terms

4 years ago

switch101(switch male) - Her terms are that she only could punish me with (spanking, belting, caning, paddling) based on what I do wrong and to agree the punishment is not sexual but only disciplinary, and to keep our sexual switch relationship as it is

4 years ago

Alluracurious - Very sub of you...my dominate side is definitely stronger, but if you are comfortable with this arrangement and it works for you both then I'm happy for you. Good luck and merry Christmas

4 years ago

switch101(switch male) - Thanks for your help, and merry Christmas to you too

4 years ago

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a place where everything is not okay

Is it okay?

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