I've been on site for almost a year. One of my biggest lessons have been how to deal with the drama that stems from personality clashes. My submissive friends are great for backing me up and offering to help deal with other people. However, some of my best advice has come from the Dom's I've become close to. I want to share that advice with you. It helped me handle the drama from my end, not the other person, which has helped me become a better person.
The first Dom who had helped was someone I was submitting to at the time. He told me a story of a lioness in the jungle. She was minding her own when a tiny mouse began to pester her. Tapping at her tail, running around her, trying to get attention. He asked me, do you really think the queen of the jungle would let a tiny rodent disturb her peace? No! She'd ignore it until it went away as the mouse would be a waste of time and effort for the lioness. He reminded me that I was his lioness. And the one trying to pester me wasn't worth my time. He told me to hold my head up high and only give my attention to those who deserved it. What a wonderful lesson to remember! Now, I focus on only those who brighten my day. 🌟
However, I slipped up and argued with another submissive. I have a very sweet and caring Dom friend that I told, in hopes he'd take my side and validate my feelings. Silly me! 😂 Instead he asked "Ame, are you a piggy?" 😮 Umm, no! I replied. Then he said "then get out of the mud" 🐽 that made me realize I had once again allowed myself to be lowered into the drama muck. It's easy to blame others and get angry at others. It's much more difficult to look at your own actions, and control your own behavior. I mean, we're adults after all. We should find a way to care, forgive, or simply ignore. I've made many mistakes. Thankfully, I've been learning from each of them to become a better person. My goal is to stay out of the muck. I'll apologize when I do wrong. I'm not perfect, it'll happen often I'm sure. I'll dismiss those who have evil intentions and try to not let them get to me.
Just remind me to stand up when you catch me rolling in the mud again. 😉
