Good morning everyone!!!!!
Today is a laid back beautiful day!
I have a lot of homework!
Also--- I am Master identified and I clean the kitchen. I enjoy it. It gives me a sense of pride and ownership.
When I first transitioned into becoming a Master I was asked- in an M/s relationship who drives the car?
Back then I really had to think about that- if I drive thats more work for me --- if My beloved drives then does that symbolize who is in control?
Now the answer is clear- I choose who drives. And because I am the WORLDS shittiest driver- its gonna br My beloved.
When I 1st began my journey these questions of who-does-what had weight to them. And then over time everything just became so clear.
I clean the kitchen. Cleaning the kitchen gives me joy. Why would I take away my own joy over some pretense of what other people think should be happening in an M/s relationship.
Because that's what that is. There are no official rules in BDSM. There there are personal joys.. Personal attachments to power.. Personal attachments to slavery.
And just because somebody else says- Masters don't do that and because I do it means I'm not a Master, is NO reason for me to stop doing what gives me joy.
I don't corporately punish either.. I'll probably address this in a blog later. However when I made the decision other Masters were completely blown away by this and were very happy saying I'm not a Master.
And my answer was--- it isn't what you think that matters.
The biggest damage that can happen besides besides abuse and blah blah blah is the damage that we do to each other.
What we choose to validate what we choose to destructively talk about. Those things matter.
I have decided that as a Master my social responsibility is to be approachable. It is to be willing and honest when it comes to answering questions about my Mastery and My beloves slavery.
I have always asked masters what is the one thing? Every slave has 1 thing that that they absolutely struggle doing. My beloved struggled with dusting. Someone else's slaves struggled with toilets.. Every slave has one thing. If we don't talk about this 1 thing openly then what are we really really doing here? You can't create community if everybody's so everybody's so pent up on trying to be perfect in an image that doesn't even exist in real time .
We all have our little things. We all have our big things.. We all have huge massive flaws but if we are afraid to be original to the people who will understand our relationship dynamics then we fail ourselves in our communities.
I challenge myself to speak as openly and honestly as I can. Do not put up a front. To simply allow my Mastery to be what it is. If it does not fit into somebody else's definition that's on them.
Maybe some of this comes with age. In that case I love being old!!!
