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Nomada Picante

Weird stories from a freaky nomad
1 year ago. March 29, 2021 at 10:37 PM

Feel free to disagree with me - this is my own experience and opinion 

There are 2 types of submissive women you'll meet on any fetish site, those who will swoon and those who seem cold. The ones who swoon, who are enamored by your eloquent dominance in the first few messages, they are caught in the dream you've so aptly created for them. It's exactly what they want. Mystery and lack of control is quite intoxicating, but eventually the smoke clears and all that's left are the mirrors. It may be after only a few hours, or it may be after weeks of talking. You might even meet in person. Inevitably, no matter what kind of person you are behind it all, she wakes up as if from a dream. She feels silly and self conscious, even though she's the one who put herself in such a position. Even if you've set up the perfect fantasy, it can all come crashing down.

Then the ones who are seem cold or distant, despite your warmest attention. The ones who don't respond past your first few messages, or draw out the "get to know you" phase. Here's the thing about being a woman, it's terrifying. Every man you meet is potentially a threat to your safety, it's ingrained in the minds of every woman you've ever met. Online, it's that much worse no matter how long you spend getting to know each other, there's always the underlying fear. Now add submission into the mix. The expectation of submission when she's already so disadvantaged is almost absurd. There lies the never ending dilemma, craving the sweet and beautiful release of submission while understanding the horrifying risks. Sometimes it just isn't worth it.

It may seem as though she's leading you on or being dishonest. It's often difficult to see past the disappointment of someone you're interested in turning you down. It feels like a betrayal because the bond you make feels like a promise, especially since bdsm relationships often involve promises. Here is the thing you must remember, it's quite likely that you are not her priority. There are exceptions, some really do want to dedicate their entire lives to the service of someone else (and there's nothing wrong with that, the very thought of it is intoxicating), but chances are she has some kind of goals and dreams of her own that mean you cannot have all of her attention. Try not to fault her too much for changing her mind, she may have every intention of staying under your spell until the moment she wakes. 

CSI​(sub female) - I would agree with this. I have been accused of being cold and uninterested on more than one occasion. I have wished sometimes I was a swooner, but that's just not me.
1 year ago
SirsBabyDoll​(sub female) - "every man is a threat"....yup. there is always that underlying fear, unless the man is just a friend and makes zero overtures.
1 year ago
creidsinn​(sub female) - I’m not sure EVERY woman is terrified. I’m not. I’m smart about meets and giving out personal information but I don’t think that’s fear. I DO believe lots of women could be afraid but (and I realize this is your opinion) I don’t think being a woman is terrifying at all. I’m not saying I don’t have butterflies on occasion, I just don’t see it as fear.
1 year ago
Secret Mind​(dom male) - Im not able to speak from a woman's point of view, but I do fully agree with you. Women shouldn't be scared of men or be terrified all the time. Just living in constant fear because men exist. Anyone has the potential to cause you harm but it is our own responsibility to protect ourselves.
1 year ago
SweetSirRendering​(sub female){under cons} - i agree to being both.

alert, cautiously optimistic, open to trust. when flags wave, i see them, trust dials back.

when it’s gone, it’s gone.

moony dreamy cool. 💛
1 year ago
WhatamIfightingfor​(dom male) - Given how hostile and emotionally, and occasionally physically dangerous some of the women I have met are makes perfect sense to me.
1 year ago
Sir Don​(dom male){Not availa} - If honest communication is had then the fears from both of the slash can be calmed.
If everyone lives in fear , then why are we here?
1 year ago
SweetSirRendering​(sub female){under cons} - honest communication would be great :)

unfortunately, a utopia this is not

if we are speaking honestly, realistically, and are healthy, i believe we all know it to be vital we are cautious with new people.

to protect ourselves, our lives both personal and professional, etc and those of our loved ones.
1 year ago
White Knight​(dom male) - Very well written and the sad reality of these sites, the truth is a rare commodity!
1 year ago

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