I have figured out why somethings break. Why we don't last. Why the entire world splits. It goes back to my key elements. Trust and communication. The pouring of the foundation. The bedrock of our future. This is something that must be built by us both. Not just the dominant. The dominant must create the world that we will live in and the submissive must add her beautiful and creative spirit to the mix. It is a would that must be built together.
See most foundation are made together but poured separately. That creates a thin line between the two, leaving room for a potential fracture that can one day break us apart. We must pour together , mix together and completely meld. There can be no my side and your side. It has to be only an us. Nothing else will survive the test of time. You must communicate with me talk to me. You must trust me. We have to hold one another up for good times or bad . But it has to happen. We are our foundation. We are as strong or as weak as what we create together.
Hope this helps somebody.
Good luck.